I think almost everyone on here has experienced one or more heartbreaks(the loss or lack of someone’s love)
What was your worst heartbreak experience?
How did you get over it?
How long did it last?
Hi, I have had many bad heartbreak experiences, there is no worst among them, all were really bad! I get in love easily and with great intensity, but I can say the worst by the aspect of duration, was being in love with someone for 3 years, it was the worst, because it lasted for very long. By time it started to fade out, until I forgot all about him!!
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Wasn’t so much as one. But a period of several years around 2009-2012 .
I had some memories come up, Which has left me estranged from my family. Which happened at the time of a trial meds reduction (half). Was also a girl triggering me at the time at a offline support group I went to at the time. so I had no idea what was going on with me tbh.
My Dad died, my cat went missing, A friend I guess you could say I was courting killed herself ((bipolar 2) different girl then the one triggering me) I knew her many years ago and we bumped into each other again at the offline support group. . Then my Aunt died of skin cancer. Which happened around the time I tried to patch things up with my mother. She was staying with my Aunt through her last days. So did see my Aunt before she passed. Time with Mum and myself went went down like a lead balloon. So still estranged from my family.
How have I handled it. Not very well. Totally lost is the answer. I’m still I guess trying to get it right in my head. I’m still very lost. confused, angry, hurt and very alone.
I’ve experienced two great losses. Each was the death of a parent. My mom died when I was 11 from breast cancer, setting off my schizophrenia. Then my dad killed himself (bipolar) when I was 19 by shotgun. I had to clean up the mess - bone fragments, brains, and blood everywhere across the room. Heavily traumatizing stuff.
I fall in love easily too. But which heartbreak was the most painful? I’m unsure and I don’t want to be. Those memories are deeply repressed.
I 'm sorry for that!!! These are unbelievable experiences for a person to have, let alone an underage person!!!
Greg - @anon40540444 i am truly sorry for your losses - I cant begin to imagine the pain
I think the worst heartbreak was losing friends during and after big psychosis. Because mine happened later in life I seem to come across as more normal, so some couldn’t understand that I really was sick. It was hard, but was able to interact for a short time while simultaneously hearing voices or music, like a radio station following me everywhere. I have had other relationship heartbreaks as well. I think, for me, time passing and faith in a power greater than myself helped put things in perspective. Finding small things to be grateful for, like a cup of coffee, music, nature helps too.
Just to the poster of death of parents so sorry for your trauma sometimes these posts are like bombs I’m not sure how to process. I had my first love as a heartbreak he didn’t like me and I chased him all over town. I still dre am about him vividly. He was homecoming king and star athlete it was worth it.
Probably losing both sets of my grandparents. I miss them greatly and I think they help me sometimes something good will happen and suddenly I’ll think of my grandma on my dad’s side. she and I were almost telepathic. I would call and she would say, “you know it’s the weirdest thing I was just thinking of you” almost every time I would call. I knew when it was her when she called too. weird? we were attached. I saw my grandfather’s ghost (her husband) at the time that he died. something popped in my car and the dog with me cried. the radio was going crazy and when I got back to my duplex the tough driller dude said there was a ghost in my house and he wasn’t going in there.
My biggest heartbreak was losing my sister to cancer in 2002. Today, I just said goodbye to the last big vestige of her memory- the car that was hers that I inherited upon her passing. I still some of her jewelry, papers from school and work, and of course memories. Memories of beautiful people her never die. They are magically immortal. She may gone in body, but, she is more real to me in Spirit than many who claim they are living.
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alien99, I will never be able to even imagine what you must have gone through. My Spirit prays for your Spirit. You have a great deal of courage. I am very glad to have known you. Please take care of yourself.
Coming home from college halfway through my 2nd year. Flunked out, but most of all couldn’t socialize.
When I tried to open up to my mom about how badly I was hurting senior year of high school (I was a train wreck…had been planning suicide) and she shot me down. “You don’t even have any stress in your life, MY life is stressful. Why would you want to go a stranger (a therapist) to tell them your problems?? They’ll just give you labels and drugs that will ruin your life. There’s nothing wrong with you, have you seen homeless people on the streets THEY’RE the ones with mental issues not you.”
And after that talk she never brought it up again with me. I loved and idolized my mom. I always went to her about everything. My whole relationship with her and view of her changed that night, and I’ve never really felt the same about her since.
That was my worst heartbreak.
Dear lord that’s like my worst fear.
Many parents talk more out of fear rather than love and concern and it hurts like hell. I will never know how it feels for you; but, I know for me, my mother is distant, critical, judgemental, and self-righteous. But, she is all I have left in my “nuclear family.” When our parents betray us, either by words or actions, we never really get over it. Time does not always heal all wounds. All we can do is find the peace, unconditional love, security somewhere else. I have my beloved cat and four absolutely wonderful stuffed dragons. I am still looking for that human contact that confirms my being me. I had it with my sister; but, she passed. I am still looking. I hope and pray you find that someone who will fill that special void; if you have not already. Take care sweet gentle anna. You do not deserve pain, only good stuff in life.
Three years ago i was arguing with my father and we end up not talking for almost a month. Than he died of heart attack. I haven’t had a chance to tell him how sorry i am.
The next one is heading i guess.
Sometimes, I guess I do want to yell at my mother and say, “I hate you!!!” However, she would only say I was “abusing” her. It has never occurred to her through all of these years that she might have “abused” me. Sometimes. the most tragic relationships are the ones that should be the closest. Take care!
But you.re doing your work. I didn’t from the beginning. They gave me a second chance but I couldn’t get myself to go to classes.
Do you socialize - have some people you know and talk to?
Yes I have friends.
I function pretty well, all things considering. Not as well as I could if I didn’t have to deal with all this garbage, but definitely well. Sometimes I wish I didn’t so people would take me more seriously when I tell them I’m struggling. -.- But I know if I let myself fall behind things will only get worse.