My therapist just canceled our appointment for tomorrow. She has been doing this lately. I don’t know how helpful she is in my life either. What should a good therapist do for a patient? Is she supposed to be teaching me anything? I’ve been in therapy off and on for 26 years. Do I really have anything more to talk about or learn about therapy? I’m tired.
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Give them tools and coping strategies to deal with problems on their own. Also help people see things they can’t on their own.
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That tells me, that you have been just going thru the motions of it - and not taking any of it on board. Sorry.
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My therapist is kind of my barometer…I bounce things off of her and do “check-ins” which helps me understand when I’m doing well and also when I’m not. She gives me good suggestions for coping with both day-to-day things and helps me figure out how to deal with symptoms. She also helps me figure out when I need the hospital and when I can probably deal on my own. I like my current therapist because she is so low key…my last therapist was a nightmare and had absolutely zero empathy.
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I’ve been seeing my therapist for 13 years. We don’t get into issues much. I don’t ever have anything to bring up or we don’t spend a lot of time talking about problems. I’m kinda close to him and consider him as someone I can talk to and a positive influence in my life. I feel better after our sessions. We mainly talk and joke or talk regular like I would to anyone else but if I’m not talking he is(mostly). Sometimes we kinda chill when we’re at my house(he comes to my house) and I always have a movie on. His belief is that it’s not a healthy relationship to always talk about trauma and stuff. Plus he believes the brain is like a muscle, the more you focus and talk about something, the stronger that part gets. We even talk politics though he pretty much only watches fox and I definitely do not. It’s fun though. He reminded me to vote on Super Tuesday.
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That’s a good perspective @shutterbug Thanks for sharing that. That makes sense and offers clarity too. My therapist does do this for me, after I’ve had some time to reflect on it.
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Hi @Naarai
I understand your concern and thank you, but that is not the case with me. I have taken great strides and worked my ass off to get to where I am today and possess the level of stability I own today. Please be careful not to harshly judge people. I was having a bad night with voices and I was cranky and frustrated because my therapist had just canceled on me for the 3rd time in a row. But I can assure you that I do not just go through the motions and not take anything in. I work very hard for my sanity, and regular therapy sessions serve as a vital part of that for me anyway. But we are all different I suppose. Best wishes to you! 
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I really like your analogy @WhiteRaven ! Thanks for sharing. The barometer idea is a cool analogy. I am glad you have a better therapist than your last therapist. They are important helpers for many of us. Have a good day!!
That’s really neat that you have seen the same therapist for such a long and good amount of time! Good for you! I’m glad he seems easy to talk to and a positive influence in your life. I think that’s awesome!!
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Helping living a balanced life of body, mind and spirit. Helping with a Healthy diet, practicing lite exercise and enjoying a healthy positive occupation. But I think that is from person to person different, keeping in mind they liontamers and accountants.
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Help you with what you need
Sometimes my therapist is the only person I talk to outside of my spouse. And it’s just nice to talk
Other times I need help with distorted thoughts managing anger reality checking if something actually is happening.
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My therapist has been helping me get past childhood trauma. It really effected my life. It has helped my hallucinations improve. I don’t vent to anyone anymore irl as it has greatly burned me, so its nice to have a safe person who will listen. Sometimes all you need is a good listener who listens to just you, without judgement or asking for anything in return.
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Therapy never worked for me.
I tried meditation, psychodynamic, CBT, etc, etc. In some cases it was counter-productive, in others it made no effect.
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I fee you. I’ve been in therapy for nearly ten years and I’m exhausted with it . If your therapist isn’t helping, maybe find a new one or take a break. Or both. I’m doing both right now . Taking a break but will eventually find a new one if I need it, right now I don’t feel like I do much.
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I was in therapy for 30 years and it honestly did more harm than good. I got more benefit from spiritual sources.
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It was exactly the opposite for me.
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For me, it was a way to get things ‘off my chest’ while understanding how the problem started in the first place so as not to let it happen again
Just having someone to talk to is really all it takes for some decent recovery
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I’ve been in therapy since 1996 and I view it as just a good way to get out of the apartment and socialize. I never run out of things to say. I go once a month. They wanted me to go every week but I changed their mind, I told them how much I’ve talked over the years.
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