Being social/outgoing?
Attractive?
I have never understood what the secret is…
I have never been “popular”
I hate to say this, but it makes me jealous that I don’t have the “it” or whatever it is that makes someone popular/well liked.
Man, I’m in my 30’s and it shouldn’t bother me… But it does.
I think that totally depends where you are popular. Being popular in high school is completely different from being popular on sz.com , which is completely different from other places.
I think you are popular here, @Wonderer
Thanks for your input!
I guess I’m mostly thinking about my hometown and people I went to school with..
Or like some people when I was in my early 20’s just seemed to have people gravitate to them no matter what…
I’m happy being popular here. 
Y’all are some pretty cool cats
Early popularity like high school is usually based on some pretty shallow characteristics, IMO. At least in my experience.
Yes, Attractiveness is probably one of the biggest factors in high school and early life, IMO. Especially it would seem for girls. Outgoing socially also probably came in second. And cool, you have to be cool.
Sad, but it is what it is, I guess.
Darn. lol.
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Bowens basically sums it up correctly i think. Socially outgoing is second to attractiveness probably, but sz really messes a person up in the socially outgoing category. Really makes a person profoundly awkward in most cases.
True that…
Even before sz I was socially awkward and never knew what to say.
I’m not sure in a lot of cases there is a before sz, there is a before psychosis, but sz is a deep problem in functioning that is not just psychosis.
Im pretty sure i was sz my whole life. Never been popular. One thing I always did was tell lies. Not very socially smooth.
It’s bizarre.
I was like Justin Beiber in grades 5 and 6 in Montreal…crazy popular! Then we moved…I entered middle school and I was a complete nobody!
Weird.
I was popular at a job I worked at but I was only semi popular in high school if even that
A person is popular when they say what most people want to hear.
depends what you mean, i think. If you want to be popular for good reasons i think it comes down to being a good person. If someone wants to just be famous tho, i think it comes down to being an asshol3, being rich so you can hold money over peoples heads, and saying controversial things to get reactions out of people.
I assume the first is what you mean lol in that case, we could define popular in a sense as just having a lot of friends, and the best way to keep friends is to be a good friend/person.
So true !
The fakest people I know of are so popular.
And they bullies .
They lie so deeply and are so pretentious and fake and stuck up and putrid and everything they “are “ and “havd “ was stolen pretty much .
They even steal someone else’s Essense etc
The realest most humble people who often have suffered and been set up n betrayed etc often have no friends or very few friends.
Some so called popular people might be true beauts and not up themselves in disgustingness but probably not many .
They usually power crazed and putrid and sny “niceness “ is not genuine but to make them look n feel good they do all kinds of evil even though they are definitely not good they are made to look n feel that way from what stolen etc .
A lot of them get popular by pointing out another race or so as inferior and them as superior and it gives them ego kick and there’s no truth there when they spread their yuck ness .incredibly unattractive with their fake light and arrogance and yuck yuck yuck 
Superior beings don’t behave in such a manner n that’s a fact .
Even if they are majority n uou all alone superior beings don’t be that way .
Maybe courage. I don’t know.
When I was younger if a woman was easy and decent she was popular. She became a sexual object for male fantasies. When I was in highschool men were preoccupied with women’s body shapes as well. Women who had precocious puberty got the most attention. When hormones are on the rise for both sexes in highschool those with more sexual characteristics were idols in the minds of invisible people. Good things.
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I was well-liked in school – I had lots of friends and received attention from others, even from teachers. I could tell that even students from parallel classes remembered me – some even became friends. Because of all that, I pushed myself emotionally – I’m not 100% an extrovert, I need solitude, and I have a very strong personality and character.
But to get along with so many people, I would suppress my need to be alone, my inner traits, even my own desires. I believe that this long-term masking of my true self contributed to the development of psychosis…
For so many years, I wanted to be the pretty one, the smart one, the fastest, the most capable – the good student, the one who always looked good, the one with lots of friends – that I completely forgot my real wishes.
My excellence in all areas at school was really just a desire to please others.
I was popular in school, In elementary school, middle school , and high school. If you have any questions just ask me. @Wonderer
So you want to be surrounded by a bunch of shallow people that tell you that you are likable??
