For whoever is a couple, do you mind telling me what is your relationship like with a mental illness?
I wanna know the ugly and the beautiful.
I was in a relationship until two months ago.
We were both suffering from schizophrenia, self harm and depression. There were loads of ugly sides to that relationship, as well as good and it lasted for 2 years.
Loads of arguments and fights, to be honest. Lots of jealousy and lack of trust because of our illness. I don’t know. It was hard, but also rewarding. I learned a lot.
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Oh, boy.
I don’t have enough anonymity here to get into details,
But my husband is awesome.
I’m going to think about how much I should share and get back to this question…
I’m so mysterious right now…
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Mr. Star has an engineer brain, so he views my mental illness as an interesting puzzle. Whenever I have symptoms, he likes to come up with new ideas on how to solve them. He made a recording of himself reading four hours worth of nuclear engineering notes and he plays them at night when I’m hallucinating. The talking drowns out my voices, and I can go to sleep!
Sometimes, he doesn’t understand, and it gets frustrating. I need support and he doesn’t know how to respond, so he just goes silent or walks away. That is hard. But he’s working on it. I usually have to say, “I need your support right now,” and then he sticks around. I wish he would just intuitively know, but he has no social skills. I think he’s slightly autistic. He disagrees. He thinks he is just much more logical than other people. I tell him that’s exactly what someone with autism would say.
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When I’m off my meds, it’s awful. We fight and I break things and cry all the time. On meds, it’s smooth sailing.
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That’s very sweet of him. Lol four hours of engineering talk. That’s pretty awesome.
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I have a relationship and would like some feedback I’m shizopheniac and she believes she has some infulences of bi polar everything we think we get along with but when we are supposed to agree we don’t anybody with inter mental health problems experience?
He’s fantastic. He is also the one who discovered that I can tolerate intimate physical contact as long as I’m always the one who initiates it. So he never pushes or pressures in any way. Whenever I want to be sexual, he’s up for it, and whenever I don’t, he’s totally fine. I used to consider myself entirely asexual before we figured this trick out.
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Hi, my relationship couldn’t be better, to be honest. I’m so lucky to be with my partner 
She understands my illness, I have schizophrenia & paranoid pd, and she does as well (the personality disorder, not the sz). She helps me calm down when I have an episode, helps me tell what’s real & what’s not. She’s incredibly patient, and I love her lots. We’ve been going for almost 3 years! Our anniversary is in 2 weeks 
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Will someone have an open minded coversation with me
Anybody with bi polar experiences or find different mental health relationships make sence
Like I said, my husband is possibly autistic and I’m sz. We don’t really have many problems. We both tend to be logically minded, except when I’m having an episode. What specific problems are you and your partner experiencing?
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The love I share with my husband is like butterfly kisses on a fluffy-bunny butt, love lamb-chop, honey-buttons, kitty wishes, pumpkin bunnies. And then there is the real and all that works out fine too. So yeah…
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My husband is the best.
I didn’t disclose the extent of my mental illness in the beginning of our relationship, so he was pretty surprised when things started to go sideways. And I was pretty surprised he didn’t want to break up.
We’ve been married seven years and when I’m real crazy I convince myself that I don’t know him that well and that he is holding me hostage.
I come up with various escape plans, that btw, involve killing him.
I’ve gained strange attractions to other people, and delusions. Totally cutting him off socially and sexually.
Then the postpartum issues…Holy God.
Its brutal.
And the incredible part is he still thinks I’m worth the trouble.
He’s calm, he’s stable, and he’s for some reason, putting up with me.
He’s also put up with a lot more bizarre things I’m probably not going to disclose on a public forum,
Just know, he’s the best.
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I wanna move out… I don’t know why I am afraid of taking action. I just do not have any hope for a better life of any sort I guess. I am only thinking what would change… I will be sad, depressed for a while… I already am. I will be lonely… I already am… I might face some financial problems… can be better managed and planned. I do not have much support so being alone is a problem. do you think it is? I have been independent before… the illness scares me the most.
It has been a disaster for a long time. I am so unstable back and forth. I am exhausted and want to break free. not sure what is my solution to be stable and confident in my decisions.
You’ve been talking about wanting to move out for almost as long as I can remember. If you’re not happy with him, there is a chance you might be happy with someone else. But I guess there is also a chance you just have depression, and you’ll feel the same no matter what you do.
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you think with all these symptoms… your relationship is still surviving? you are happy together?
he is putting up with you or he is happy to be with you ?
@Ninjastar is 100% right.
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I am ill I don’t know what to do. I am forcing to make my relationship and life into something beautiful… it is just not working out. No matter how hard I try. So I think secretly it is better to be alone but I am anxious to make the change.
I always preferred being alone to being in relationships. I felt this way right up until I met Mr. Star. Once I met him, I just knew he was different from anyone I had ever dated before. After a month with him, I knew I would marry him, and I have never once doubted that decision since then. I feel like if your relationship was working for you, you would know it. But I’ve never dealt with depression, so I don’t know how it can lie to you.
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