Is it possible? I know of a few married couples in which one is normal and the other is schizophrenic. Some of these couples even have children. I guess revealing that one who has schizophrenia should be told until the moment when both are about to commit. However, there is the risk that the normal person will reject the schizophrenic when truth be told.
Anyone have any experience with this?
I don’t see why its not possible if you don’t have negative symptoms and have financial stability.
Sadly I can’t because I have severe negative and cognitive symptoms and I am not finacially stable, no income.
I’m married, and I have one daughter and two stepdaughters. I wasn’t diagnosed until after my husband and I were engaged. But he stood by my side. He’s a good man. He’s kind, and empathetic. It can work out. It’s possible. Don’t give up hope unless you think it’s not right for you.
@LilyoftheValley I assume that your husband is supporting the family. Are you, yourself employed?
I’m not employed. Both my husband and I are disabled and on disability. We’re poor, but happy
My husband was on disability when I met him. Didn’t bother me a bit
My husband married me knowing I was schizophrenic,
But my symptoms were mild and I was unmedicated.
A few years later, after I had my son, my symptoms came back with a vengeance.
He was surprised and it took a little while for him to adjust to my new needs,
But we’re a team and work through things together.
It’s nice to have such support from my husband.
@LilyoftheValley my situation would be different then because I would have to support the family. It’s difficult to survive on just government hand outs especially if there are children to take care of.
That’s what we’re doing. We’re on SSDI with kids. It’s hard, but so far we’ve made it work.
When did you reveal to him that you were a schizophrenic? Like how long into the relationship?
When I was doing online dating there was this nice guy and a fortnight later I told him that I had psychosis. He accepted it 
, those are tears of joy.
Unfortunately I chickened out because my confidence started to go downhill. But it does give me a glimmer of hope regarding finding a partner.
How could you? That to me is like finding a needle in a haystack. What exactly happened?
I know right. He seemed so decent.
But the problem is I was getting more and more shy and I worry about what that would do to me in the long run in terms of mental health. Plus, it’s not fair on him if I’m feeling like I can’t be myself anymore. You know what I mean? Like he will eventually find out that he is wasting his time if I initially put on a mask of confidence until it crumbles.
@anon90843118 That is catastrophic. How can the relationship be unfair to him if he already accepts you and your mental illness? You already told him and I would think you would just continue from there on. The mask has been lifted and is no longer needed.
I know it was really sad for me because I started to get a bit attached to him but I had to be the one to put an end to it.
Although he accepted the psychosis, and I was OK with the dating at the start, my confidence started to go down and that is a warning sign of psychosis for me when I get stressed about a guy long term. I could tell I was only going to get more and more self conscious.
But as I said, it was nice to know that a decent guy was accepting of psychosis 
I really loved him for that because he was looking for something with the potential to be long term.and serious 
About a year into the relationship when I started having problems.
I don’t think you have to disclose your illness with people you date,
At least in the beginning.
I’m sure he noticed I had some weird quirks and some paranoia before then.
I will use your experience as a guideline. One year of knowing the significant other while letting out some quirks. Got it!
Every relationship is different,
And you have to kind of know when it’s serious enough to tell them.
Use common sense and remember that your mental illness is your business,
You don’t have to tell everyone you date.
Good luck out there, dating is hard, regardless of mental illness.
I’m married, no kids yet, and we are also both on SSDI. We knew there was something going wrong with me from the start as the signs were there (or at least he suspected lol!) but I wasn’t diagnosed until later… Having physical comfort, someone to laugh with and talk to, someone to share experiences with- it’s worth the trials and tribulations that any relationship has in it. I really wish more people with schizophrenia got to experience closeness and intimacy. I honestly do.
Totally agree. Living a life of soltitude is detrimental to one’s mental health. But as schizophrenics, it’s even harder because the stigma that is attached to this mental illness makes it difficult to be open to a normal person. 4 out of the 5 senses which are sight, sound, smell and touch (taste excluded) all fit into the description you provided. Physical comfort, the sound of laughter, the sight of that person and the smell of that person next to you is what all humans should strive to achieve in a partner.