That’s the question, as for me, I haven’t had a real relationship (with all it contains) for more than 10 years. All the relationships I had were fake and very small and I didn’t enjoy them. So, most time I 've been alone, what about you? Would you tell your partner about your illness? Do you have a relationship now? Do you feel lonely? I don’t have a relationship right now and I feel very lonely.
42 with no relationship
now struggling with schiz no hope of relationship just worried about my mental health and hoping to see the doctor soon enough. I am due back at college on Monday for my degree . I will go in and get a feel whether I can cope with this course as at present struggling with assignments. hope that I can scrape through with a pass on my assignments.
have no social life obviously being ill.
in the past I’ve had a couple of boyfriends that didn’t last long
feel lonely and would like a relationship but don’t think i’ll get one unless I get well
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I am going through a divorce right now. My husband cheated on me with more than one woman. My husband knows about my illness, but I don’t plan on telling anyone in the future until we are both ready for it. I am pretty lonely, but I know I need to wait for the right person to come around this time. I don’t like hiding my illness, but I know people would treat me different if I came out about it. I don’t want to miss out on opportunities in the future. I would also like people to get a chance to know me before judging me.
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Dear shellys12, I 'm sorry to hear these words, I hope you pass on your assignments too, and have a good health to be able to have a social life, 'cos no human can live well without social life. Of course you need to get well for your health, which is the most important thing in the world. Hope to get well soon!
I 'm sorry to hear that, I wish you have courage and I agree that we must not tell anyone who is not ready to hear us about our illness. Hope we attract kind and loyal people 'cos the rest aren’t worth to have. God bless you!
Ta redrose
Means alot
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I 'm with you! Glad that I made you a little happier. Have faith!
Sorry your going through this. I hope you can find maybe a small social group and a friend before a relationship.
My past relationships were not good. We were both toxic and horrid to each other. I was single for a very long time. I got healthier and more stable and learned how to be a better person…
My neighbor/ plutonic friend became my Girlfriend.
We had been friends with no intention of letting it go further… but sometimes the heart over rules the head.
She does know about my Sz. I accidently told her the moment we met.
She was trying to move into the better apartment next door and I was trying to scare her away so I could move in. I told her I was a scary Sz and she wouldn’t want to live next to a scary man like I was. I tried to convince her… I am a scary man.
But a nice apartment in a quiet alcove on the water with low rent I guess over rides a scary man neighbor any day.
She wasn’t afraid at all… and she moved in. It’s been a long time in the making… but 7 months ago… we ended up becoming closer then just buddies.
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Im 39 haven’t had any kind of friendship , relationship or anything for like 18-19 yrs and in retrospect the one person I did have a relationship with left partially becauase my sz I think.
We were just kids but still seriously considering marriage until she found out mental illness runs in my family.
I remember the day she found out that my dad was at one time prescribed lithium she was totally introspective to distraction the rest of the day like she was seriously analyzing this new knowledge she came across and after that she slowly became more distant.
I dont blame her she once told me about a aunt she had that was really bad mentally so she new what might happen to me befor I did.
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This illness sucks. The isolation paired with negative voices. It’s the equivalence of some kind of hell. I don’t believe in the real hell, but I’ll be subjected to this ■■■■ for the rest of my life, and perhaps there is worse in store for me in the after life.
It would be nice to find a girl to share my life with. In my entire life though there have only been about 10 girls I’ve wanted to be with. I can’t fake affection, I’ve had to in the past and it’s just stupid. So really I don’t know how long it’ll be until I meet another, let alone establish a relationship with them.
Let alone that I’m sz.
It’s been a crazy morning.
Nothing like being alone with this illness. It can make you feel so unloved.
My heart goes out to you. Know that your in good company. There is strength to be found in being alone.
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I have been in a relationship for over a year now, you don’t have to name your illness and say you have schizophrenia, you can settle it by saying you had suspicions about people and thought you were monitored by others, just the description of the symptoms will do the job of confronting the other, it doesn’t have to be very direct and be talked about for a lengthy period of time, a couple of minutes of honesty and then rejoice the scene.
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Thank you very much for your answers!! I can’t find strength in being alone, I never could, so that’s why I ‘m facing eating disorders. Food is like a shelter to me. Whenever I don’ t feel well, I open the fridge. And then I get unhappy for opening the fridge. So, it’ s not only a shelter, but a nightmare too, I need sth to give me strength, and that’s love.
I understand the eating part…too little and too much food. It is not pleasant to be so unstable. Hold in there. It gets better in between the downs.
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Didn’t tell past boyfriend about illness. He was very confused by a lot of my behaviors. Wasn’t a very good relationship.
Now I actively avoid relationships even though I’d really like one because I don’t want to make anyone have to deal with my mess.
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We are so unlucky.Why us? There are so many other people who don’t crave for a relationship and still have, or others who still don’t deserve it because they are not good, and we that we deserve it have the illness. Life is so unfair!!
Yeah the universe really is indifferent to our desires. It’s a cold chaotic place.
I hope things work out for you.
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Thank you very much!!
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I believe that if you want something enough your subconscious mind will bring it about or maybe God will try praying it can’t hurt.
I believe in God and that everything is his part of His plan be it good or bad.
But I also believe that we each have a inherent energy source inside that interacts with others on a subconscious level.
I guess you could call it karma.
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Yes you are right.