A friend Suzanne called me to apologize one day and left the message on my machine, “I’m sorry I was an ahole to you." Because it is a word I don’t use, or at least up then didn’t use, I asked my brother, "What does 'ahole’ mean?”
My brother said, “An a**hole is a person who is harder than average to love.”
I was delighted! Now that I know what that word means, I love to use it. When a guy cuts me off in traffic, I laugh happily and say, “There’s another a**hole.”
Now I’m asking my brother, “What does ‘I’d rather go hungry than not pay back the money I want to borrow from you’ mean?”
My brother says it just means, “I really need money bad.”
I thought it meant, “I will make it a priority to pay you back.”
I’m angry at a friend now who borrowed a large some of money from me with the phrase, “I’d rather go hungry than not pay back this loan.” and then completely forgot she had borrowed it.
Seriously, she borrowed a large amount of money from me and kept me in the loop of her life. I know the financial betrayals from her employer and family members she experienced; also, I know and health problems she experienced subsequent to borrowing the money such that I didn’t get the money back.
Recently. I did say to this gal, “Some of my support system are not happy with me about the large amounts of money I have lent to you,” and she shot back, “You never lent me a large amount of money!”
So I refreshed her memory, and then she said, “Oh, well, I meant to pay you back, and then, this and this happened,” which of course I did know what hardships she had endured.
And I know she’s quite physically sick and the support system in this country is cumbersome, but my feeling are hurt that she forgot me. It is really hard to send her a Christmas present this year.