I’m currently doing what the title says. Wallowing in jealousy-fuelled self-pity.
I feel so stupid because of it. I’m not one to get jealous or wallow in self-pity, yet here I am. It was triggered by some songs I’ve been listening to and some episodes I saw of a tv-show where the main character realises he’s in love with his friend, but sees her being lovey-dovey with someone who’s not him.
I’ve written before about potential feelings for a friend, and I still haven’t quite sorted them out. I thought they’d subsided, but it seems they haven’t.
He’s happy with his girlfriend, and I would never do anything to get between them, nor would I ever act on my feelings in any way.
I just wish I could get over it and move on, you know? There’s no point in wallowing in self-pity over someone I can’t have anyways, and him being one of my best friends on the planet, I can’t distance myself by spending less time with him or he’d start to take it personal and ask questions, so what am I supposed to do?
Any advice?
(And no, there’s no way I’m ever going to tell him about it)
It’s not because of the friend-time.
She lives in another city, and she usually only comes by during the weekends. Which means I have most of the week to hang out with him.
I’m not sure I’d go as far as to say I’m romantically interested in him, but it’s something along those lines, I think.
I’m sorry. Jealousy is a rough emotion to deal with. It never comes alone. There’s always guilt and envy and embarrassment and anger to go along with it.
It’s 4:42am and I can’t sleep because of all the racing thoughts. I’ve said so before, and I’ll say it again: I’m way too old to be losing sleep over silly stuff like this!
Oh, how well I know the jealousy and the guilt of it… I became aggressive once toward a friend of mine cause I was in love with my ex and I couldn’t calm myself down. He was with me but I was jealous even then… Try to distract with other guys yes, it can help a bit. Even if its only on the tv, try to find someone else attractive .
Me too idk how to deal with jealousy, but I guess time helps a bit . I have one friend which is already old and she said my love tourments are not proper for my age but whatever, we are sensible… Plus the life is quite tough with us, we have the right to be in love. But i guess we can find our happiness with somebody else too. At the end, maybe this guy doesn’t deserve you. you deserve somebody who will love you too .
I’m so confused.
Something inside of me is screaming at me to tell him, but the logical side of me KNOWS that nothing good will come from it.
I think the irrational side of me wants to do it because it thinks he might say he feels the same way, but I KNOW he doesn’t.
I hate feeling this way.
Someone gave me the advice to just be happy that someone is still able to make me feel that way, and it helped, but it seems like this crush thing is becoming an obsession, and I don’t like it. I’d do anything to make it go away.
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