I always find this a very interesting topic.
Because I can relate so deeply
How do you get over people you like when it is unrequited love.
Cos there’s this guy in my parents church.
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Hobbies and playing the numbers game with other prospects. Learn to love yourself again, and pursue those hobbies and lifestyles, and the right person will show up for you. You don’t have to be that forceful about it, but a little bit of initiative doesn’t hurt.
Don’t turn into some kind of thirsty desperate playa who feels hollow without a partner, that leads to an ugly codependent kind of relationship.
Interdependence is ideal here. Not completely independent, but not completely codependent. It’s a middle ground.
I’ve been there with the unrequited love. I wish I could have told myself these things back then.
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Yea you’re right!!
I just feel like my self esteem is the problem because if I was loving myself then I’d be busy doing that n have no time to think about that person. But Ive mistreated myself so much in life. Changes start today
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Yes.
Unrequited love is a hard bone to chew.
Been there done that.
Best you can do is focus on things you love doing. Time is the greatest healer.
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I feel like this guy also controls my life.
Gosh it’s slightly annoying
Cos you know u want to seem 'perfect 'for them
Don’t give him that power over you. First of all, he doesn’t deserve it. Nor does he want it!
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Wow that’s quite uplifting to hear
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Have u ever felt like that before in the past?
Yes.
I had a girl I wanted to completely overhaul my life for, who I had a number of interactions with, but the ideal “me” and what I thought she wanted was only a storybook fiction I made up in my mind, and not reflective of who I actually was. Even if it worked out I would not have been truly happy.
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Makes sense…
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@naturallycured are you from India, what time is it there?
I’m Indian, but live in Canada. It’s 6:36 here.
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I loved him since 6th grade
Went to a party where he came out of the bedroom having sex with Krista
Killed me
Then she had an abortion
He was going to school to be a doctor.
My best friend at the time hit on him and probably told him I intercepted Krista note to him on his car.
We lived in the same dorm in college. He was a Whore. What made me look over in Chemistry final we were the last two people in the auditorium like the last two people on earth.
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So you learnt to be truly yourself and then that is the way to see if you attract someone because that is when you are in your happiest state. Good one
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Yes, that’s the philosophy in a nutshell.
Be OK with yourself, and the Universe will reward you for it. Be desperate and the Universe will pull away from you.
that’s a good way to look at it
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sorry to hear that, at least you are over him now that’s good
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Remember that manic love is a neurochemical con job, and you won’t throw your life and stability away for it.
Love is still important, but the sustainable kinds take a long time to establish.
I think you’ll be OK.
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There’s this woman. You all know her. She cut off contact with me. Again. She quit answering my calls. So, I blocked her phone number. She can’t contact me. Unless she changes her phone number. Which she’s done before. I doubt she’d come over. I might not be home. And she lives quite a way away. I want to be rid of her for good. But, she always gets a hold of me. Eventually.
yeahh.
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