U should believe complements people give you

Yesterday in Iop two people said they thought I was smart. I thought to myself that they weren’t being genuine. Then I put myself in their shoes, why would they say that if they didn’t believe it. Usually when people compliment you they mean it. But I don’t take compliments well usually. I think they’re not being sincere.

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I believe they believe them, but I always doubt their reasoning.
For some reason, I laugh when people compliment me, and I get nervous as if I was caught doing something I shouldn’t.

I think part of me doesn’t feel like I deserve compliments

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Never disqualify a compliment! It sends them the message that they don’t know what they’re talking about. Rejecting a compliment is actually impolite. I learned this lesson when I was in seventh grade. And of course people’s compliments are sincere. Just my tuppence.

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I have a hard time accepting compliments. I don’t like much about myself, so I assume that when people say they do like something, they are just being polite.

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I’m the same way but after reasoning with myself on it I’m trying to change my thinking

I try to accept compliments but idk how to really. I just dont know what to do.
And I have a hard time believing the compliments are true.

U should believe why?
People with schizophrenia and me included are perfectionist they love to do their tasks with greatest accuracy so that people dont feel they ill
So believe and enjoy greater self confidence and self esteem
nd Take deep breath!

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people lie so much i am trans deaf.

You should believe them @BigJon…why not.

I’m the same way. I never remember people complimenting anything I do, always the criticisms. I guess I kind of feel ‘How could you possible like me when I don’t.’

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I agree… it’s hard enough without second guessing other people’s kindness…

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I could have wrote that. I have a hard time receiving compliments and believing them. To me, I treat every compliment just like when you get your hair cut and it turns out funny looking or weird but everybody you run into for a week says, “Hey, did you get your haircut? It looks good.”

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Good thread - seems like we’re all in the same boat.
Last year 2 galleries offered to make an exposition of my art - one of them said he hasn’t seen anything like my paintings in 10 years. I started believing him few days ago and started painting again.
My therapist long time ago told me I don’t believe compliments, I take them as flattering, as if everybody who compliments me wants something from me…Low self-esteem…definately

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