Hi. I’ve listed some information below about my diagnoses and background that can be skipped.
The question is: How do you, as a diagnosed person (or similar) cope with developing a relationship with someone without sharing any delusional beliefs that you have about the world? I think I’d like to develop that skill. Surely you don’t rant and rave about beliefs that are considered to be ‘crazy,’ right? Do you just focus on small talk, talk about areas that are a common ground between your delusional beliefs and ‘standard’ beliefs, and such to avoid talking about your delusional world-view? If pressed for information about your world-view, what do you say? I’ve considered saying that I don’t feel comfortable discussing my world-view because it’s not considered sane. If she wants some idea of my world view, I can recommend reading 1 science fiction book and one 3 part series, and making a mash-up of them with some modifications, with a lot of thought, analysis, open-mindedness, and patience. Even that may seem to crazy, though. What is a relationship without an understanding of each other’s beliefs, even if the beliefs are not shared, though? Maybe I should just try to date a woman who appears to be brainwashed by some doctrine that openly discourages heresy or apostasy and then just tell her that I don’t want to share my beliefs with her because I don’t want to discourage her in her beliefs. Heck, I really don’t know what to do. Thoughts?
Background on my diagnosis that can be skipped: This post is in the ‘Diagnosed’ section because I was once diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia; but my psychiatrist now says that she sure that I’m not a schizophrenic, and may be schizotypal. I’m on 1 mg of Haldol daily. I’ve had 2 of what I would call ‘psychotic episodes’ in my life, with one being severe and landing me in a holding cell due to insane driving. I’ve almost never had problems with hallucinations. Just delusions.
Background on my dating life that can be skipped: I’ve been lucky enough to stay employed and work on a couple of attempted relationships of the last few years. I ‘dated’ one woman for about 8 months who seemed to have a somewhat interesting mind. She didn’t seem to want to take the relationship much further, though. I never told her I am ‘crazy.’ Now, I’m dating a woman who seems to be pretty infatuated with me, and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. I want to get to know her better to know if I’m interested in a relationship with her. I’ve told her about my diagnoses and 2 episodes. She is kind of old-fashioned about chaperones and such, so I’m going to talk with her on the phone tonight to get to know her better in a private one to one discussion. I’m nervous about how to talk about each others belief about the world.