Trauma can cause lots of problems

Including neurological symptoms. Just wanted to share how my functional seizures and paralysis began, because it’s weird. TW for trauma obviously but it’s not graphic just emotional and long.

When I was 16 I started dating this guy who was 23. He was my guitar teacher. We dated for 2 years, and I was so desperate to get away from my abusive parents, I moved out as soon as I graduated HS and into his house with his mom. I was there only a week, during which I was left alone all day, hed get home at 2am and leave before I got up. He told me I took dependent on him suddenly, and he wanted a break. Then I got a phone call and my.friend told me he was cheating on me (as I suspected the entire time, which he was). I felt something in my brain snap that night that I’ve never quite felt since.

He also strung me along for a couple.mlre years because I was desperate to get him back regardless of how he treated me. It took me years to get over him.

Fast forward to 2018, I got a phone call from the freaking NCIS, telling me they found photographs of me from when I was 16-17 on his computer and he had been arrested. I won’t go into detail about why but yes she was younger than I was at the time.

Fast forward to a month ago. My boyfriend tells me hes been seeing another person for a week and didnt tell me about it because he was afraid I’d be hurt. I wouldn’t have been, out agreement is we can see other people if we communicate. So I felt cheated on and highly triggered. We had a huge argument, I drove four hours to go see him the next day so we could make up, the whole time freaking out how am I going to face him.

When I got there I noticed how bad off mentally he was, and I knew it had been bad, but it really hit me. He was digging at his hands and biting his nails, pacing, hyper ventilating sometimes. If wasn’t like an act, I have seen him like that before. It broke my heart that he was so bad off, I felt.over whelmed by my.love for him and how badly I wanted to work it out, but also my brain ping pinged between that and how hurt I was that he hid something from me.

I started hallucinating like I had never before. Vivid and realistic beyond anything I think I’ve had before. We laid down to sleep, and as soon as he touched me to cuddle my eyes started darting back and forwards, , my arms and legs locked into place, and then I started convulsing. We both honestly thought it was just a really bad panic attack until later on, he coached me through it and things calmed down physically. I was completely still and not able to speak, but very much awake for the next hour.

So yeah frozen and nonverbal, I hallucinated the hat man walk in with a gasoline can. I heard him pouring it around the bed and light a match. I saw flames around me. I heard demons chanting at me through the walls. didn’t know what the ■■■■ was going on. He said I was going to die.

That was just my first episode. My theory is my boyfriend cheating on me was highly triggering, and then him touching me reminded me subconsciously of going to bed with my ex who also cheated on me, and the conflict of how can someone that acts like they love me hurt me so deeply. Story of my life?

Thanks for reading. :+1: I have so much more I could say about that night and also the following week of severe neurological problems, but this is how this started for me, a long with a car crash a few.months back and mounting stress.

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Sounds like it was a really traumatic experience for you :disappointed: I’ve been cheated on before too. It’s no fun.

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I think the cheating itself wasn’t as triggering as the secrecy involved with both partners you know? It really stresses me out that people can just live a lie

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I hear you… Yea I know what you mean. especially when you trust someone whole heartedly. Can drive a person crazy.

You’re a good person froge! Your gonna find your soulmate one day. Someone who truly appreciates you for who you are. You deserve someone who’s just as genuine as you.

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Thanks dude you as well! I’m still trying to work things out with him but like unsure if I can at this point

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You’re such a beautiful person :heart: never forget your worth k? I know how devastating it can be. Can make you feel like you just weren’t good enough or something. But the problem isn’t with you it’s with them. There’s tons of people out there who would love to date you! :stuck_out_tongue: Hold your head up high ok?

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Your mind is struggling like hell and has since teenager. You need to talk to a therapist and work on yourself then when your ready to have intimate relationships again thats fine but only when your ready and right in your own mind. Its no good carrying on you have deep wounds to heal. Time will help heal them some but you’ll always be scarred. I know and you’ve shared enough over years which is why im giving you the best advice i can give

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I’m 31 and have been in therapy most of my adult life, many times talking about this topic or related. I know I need more therapy for sure but I don’t think avoiding dating all the time until I’m way better will do me much good either, beyond maybe make me disinterested all together :joy:

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Are you seeking medical advice about seizures

No I’m not, I’m just sharing my story about developing functional neurological disorder. I’ve been researching it a lot and everyone’s got a unique story

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It seems really bad having paralysis and seizure. I hope you can mend

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It was definitely life changing. I haven’t had nearly the same level of symptoms since that week since but it’s only been a month and I’ve been avoiding… Everyone. I also have tons of other functional problems, like tremors, gait disorder, IBS, fibromyalgia… We thought I had MS especially when the paralysis started.

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