Including neurological symptoms. Just wanted to share how my functional seizures and paralysis began, because it’s weird. TW for trauma obviously but it’s not graphic just emotional and long.
When I was 16 I started dating this guy who was 23. He was my guitar teacher. We dated for 2 years, and I was so desperate to get away from my abusive parents, I moved out as soon as I graduated HS and into his house with his mom. I was there only a week, during which I was left alone all day, hed get home at 2am and leave before I got up. He told me I took dependent on him suddenly, and he wanted a break. Then I got a phone call and my.friend told me he was cheating on me (as I suspected the entire time, which he was). I felt something in my brain snap that night that I’ve never quite felt since.
He also strung me along for a couple.mlre years because I was desperate to get him back regardless of how he treated me. It took me years to get over him.
Fast forward to 2018, I got a phone call from the freaking NCIS, telling me they found photographs of me from when I was 16-17 on his computer and he had been arrested. I won’t go into detail about why but yes she was younger than I was at the time.
Fast forward to a month ago. My boyfriend tells me hes been seeing another person for a week and didnt tell me about it because he was afraid I’d be hurt. I wouldn’t have been, out agreement is we can see other people if we communicate. So I felt cheated on and highly triggered. We had a huge argument, I drove four hours to go see him the next day so we could make up, the whole time freaking out how am I going to face him.
When I got there I noticed how bad off mentally he was, and I knew it had been bad, but it really hit me. He was digging at his hands and biting his nails, pacing, hyper ventilating sometimes. If wasn’t like an act, I have seen him like that before. It broke my heart that he was so bad off, I felt.over whelmed by my.love for him and how badly I wanted to work it out, but also my brain ping pinged between that and how hurt I was that he hid something from me.
I started hallucinating like I had never before. Vivid and realistic beyond anything I think I’ve had before. We laid down to sleep, and as soon as he touched me to cuddle my eyes started darting back and forwards, , my arms and legs locked into place, and then I started convulsing. We both honestly thought it was just a really bad panic attack until later on, he coached me through it and things calmed down physically. I was completely still and not able to speak, but very much awake for the next hour.
So yeah frozen and nonverbal, I hallucinated the hat man walk in with a gasoline can. I heard him pouring it around the bed and light a match. I saw flames around me. I heard demons chanting at me through the walls. didn’t know what the ■■■■ was going on. He said I was going to die.
That was just my first episode. My theory is my boyfriend cheating on me was highly triggering, and then him touching me reminded me subconsciously of going to bed with my ex who also cheated on me, and the conflict of how can someone that acts like they love me hurt me so deeply. Story of my life?
Thanks for reading. I have so much more I could say about that night and also the following week of severe neurological problems, but this is how this started for me, a long with a car crash a few.months back and mounting stress.