Did you have a toxic relation with someone? (Not a lover) how long it takes to cut off that relation?
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I had a toxic relation with a friend. She was jealous because she was always thinking that I was more beautiful than her. So I cut the relation two years later.
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I think beauty is something really subjective.
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In a way I had a toxic relationship with my parents. When I lived with them I became totally dependent on them and we had a very unhealthy dynamic where they kind of fed off of having a sick child. When I moved 5000 miles away I learned better how to fend for myself and they began to develop hobbies that didn’t involve their mentally ill daughter. They’re still very supportive and sometimes help me out, but we’re all better off this way.
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I had two frenamies growing up. I hated being around them because they always put me down and kept competing with me. I cut their a$$es out of my life. They would always take their anger out on me. Good riddance!
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I had a toxic relationship with a friend once.
It ended badly, I had to pretty much break up with her.
Then I had to quit my job because she was sleeping with our (married) boss.
It was terrible, but after it was over I got an awesome job and felt like a dark cloud had been lifted from my life.
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I have had lots of toxic relationships including with my parents whom I still have a complicated relationship with.
I had frenemies when I was a young teenager.i moved to Sweden and finally was in a class that I loved and I got on well with everyone and was even voted prettiest girl by guys in our class.i specially hang out with a couple of girls and boys I adored and I was happy with them.then the bad girls in class set their eyes on me and I started to be with them instead and I did love them but they were not good for me like the others were.they were destructive and I became a bad girl with them and very “tafatt” I felt like I was in restraints and was threatened to do things against my will.
By another group I was bullied and abused.
It was such a nice feeling being with people you can be yourself with and who accept you and love you for that but I was with people who were abusive.
I don’t have friends in person or on internet as such but like to think I have friends in spirit and best friends even and we laugh together etc they are positive healthy good relationships but I have not felt them around for a while not even the one who said I’m his best friend.two people said I’m their best friend.
Most boyfriends I’ve had have been like friends or something but some have been destructive.
I’ve only had great sex with one and that was intimate , sacred , hearts clicking all the others it was like bad or meh sex with a friend.
My x boyfriend was a great partner and we took care of each other but we did not have great sex nor was it often we were like platonic partners but he said he would break up with me if I went vegan and I had made up my mind to become vegan.
Hoping for positive,loving , great relationships in the future to come and that when my ma visits this year that their won’t be any drama and fights but that we can keep the peace (even when I disagree with her 
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I had a toxic relationship it took me a short while to remove them cos they could feel my hostility. I felt way too paranoid of their intentions with me so they could sense that and they disappeared. Said I was bad for their mental health. Hope they never come in my life again. Which I did make clear. Since I told them I don’t think I can interact with them due to my illness n I did apologise for how moody I was in the end of our time as friends
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With family, mostly parents
my illness also triggered by how they raise me
“eveyone hate you” “we are only who love you”
“stop asking for help people only get tired of you”
my father also having problem with anger issue(my psychiatrist also told me my dad have depression)
like they do nothing parent should, and making my life harder
an excuse is their trauma how family didn’t love them enough when they were child
When I go outside, or just on internet, people are a lot kinder to me than family
my old friends also think the one who actually sick are my parents
more I know people, like people here, I come to realize
people don’t always hate me over some small matter
but my parents will “they hate you everyone hate you”
yesterday too, I finally get out of feeling down and about to have happy day
and then again they doing something, and got angry by that thing
I like “what?” and then go to sleep because stomach ache and don’t want to deal with them
they like going around internet and having fight, when eating they saying how they insult people on internet and proud of that, support other for being mean on internet
everyday I have to pace myself ready for handle their emotion
even when eating I still have to listen about their cult and their insult toward people
I prefer waiting until night time and eat when they are not around
but yeah instant food, they food is also relate to their cult, it taste bad
but they think it made them become good people
if I talk about this to my therapist, she will just cut me off and take me as person who think badly of pitiful good parents
my parents good as acting as best parents when I was in hospital and when feel annoyed to bring me to hospital reason is “people will think we are bad if we let you go by yourself”
but yes sometime when in date of meet psychiatrist they drag me late or just trying to not going
“it’s just in your head, it’s not important why did you want to take meds and go to talk, they think you are crazy annoying and get soooo tired of you”
when I do anything they always discourage me
while my friends or even stranger being nicer to me
it made me think I’m in hell even there’s a lot of nice people in this world I’m stuck here with this best family(they think they are)
they also talk bad about me to sister and made my sister hate me, put them in victim , “you sister is delusional talking bad about us even we being so nice to her uwu ungrateful sob” and yes my sister hate me but I don’t hate her.
I think my deep root of paranoid is because of them
they are toxic and probably mentally sick but won’t bother to go to hospital because their cult help everything
well they are not different from me much having no job, and doing nothing useful everyday
sorry I vent too far, I should stop now
I just try to answer but it come out too much
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I got a couple of frenemies. I dont really see them in person but we talk daily on WhatsApp. I dont have many people to socialize current events with, so I always revert back to talking to them. We belittle each other at times and are plain nasty to each other. Its pretty toxic but I dont know how to let go.
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I understand. Sorry you feel that way. Hope that situation change.
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I kinda just down, and end up vent out in your topic
I’m sorry for that too
and thanks you, meeting you and people here make me feel better 
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Yes. My ex best friend drained my savings account and basically just used me for his own pleasure. I kicked his ass to the curb. Haven’t seen him in years and that’s okay with me.
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I had former Work Collegues use me as their Personal Bank Manager + Cash Machine , I now no longer work with them + never wish to see them ever again good riddance and as the Buddha’s would say Bad Karma will always come + find you, it’s just a matter of time!
In my experience people usually have two sides, one of them beeing more or less toxic.
The more fragile your situation is, or the more fragile you are, the more they “smell” that they can take advantage of you. Beeing it physically, emotionally or financially. Or just for fun…
I don´t like to think this way, but it´s what I´ve learned through experience. I would really love to have my mind changed on this respect.
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İ have one frenemies at teenager. İ was in doubt at my sexual choice at that time(now i know i m straight but you know it s teenager doubts) then i told him i m gay. Then he told this whole school. İt was really like nightmare. İ have really big trauvma for this. And i m still fighting… 
There are good people. You’re right about you’re saying. But, there is a “but”…there are good people in this world. A few of them. God bless them.
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