Tough day for Goldenrex

Today is my son’s birthday.

I always have mixed feelings.

Seems like every year gets harder instead of easier.

The older he gets the closer we are to the hard questions,

The phases where he doesn’t want to talk to me,

When he’s old enough to fully understand his situation and cast judgement on it.

It’s also that I miss him.

We haven’t been able to see him all year because of COVID.

We video chat a lot, but that’s a far cry from being able to hold him and tell him I love him.

It just sucks for me.

I feel better knowing he’s having a good day, though.

We’ve gotten some pictures and he’s enjoying his pool and time with his daddies.

Maybe I’m feeling sorry for myself,

But I can’t seem to hold it together today.

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Sorry you are having a tough day @GoldenRex . Try to enjoy the pictures and be happy for him.

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I’m sorry @GoldenRex
It must be very hard

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It’s reasonable to be sad and feel sorry for yourself. You love and miss your baby boy. You’re not made of stone. I think I would be worried if you weren’t sad.

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Aww, definitely understandable that you’re sad.

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Awww. It’s totally understandable to be sad. As he grows older and matures he’ll probably get closer to understanding all the complexity of the situation and he’ll understand and love you more.

Take care, friend.

:rose:

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Happy birthday to your son. I’m sorry you’re feeling a bit down but I think it’s only human.

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Gosh. I’d like to hear about him. How old is he?

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He’s eight today.

Was adopted at birth by his two fathers.

During my pregnancy the daddies and I got to be real close and decided on a very open adoption.

I’ve been a consistent part of his life, all his life.

He knows I’m his mother and he already has mixed feelings about it.

He’s a great kid and his dads are the best.

They live abroad, due to the daddy’s work, but I see them pretty frequently considering that.

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Yes, I know the tough questions and tough talks at that age. I don’t know if it gets any easier. Hang in there @GoldenRex and Happy birthday to your son!

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oh I am so sorry you are so down…it is something I can’t really comment on because I am not a mother, but that is something tender I can’t fathom so I have no idea how much pain you’re in…so sorry.

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I’m sorry you’re having a tough day, @GoldenRex. I’m here for you if you need to chat.

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@GoldenRex I am sorry this is so hard for you. You are such a wonderful mother for your child. I have seen a wide variety of birth parents by now, and you are definitely amazing for your kid. It is so good that you let yourself be a part of his life, knowing it will lead to hard times for you and knowing it will be painful. That is huge. So many kids never know their birth parents, or know them just enough to know they aren’t wanted/loved. Your kid knows that you love and support him. Right now he might not understand why your role is different from his friend’s moms, but he will learn in time. As he grows up, I’m sure he will appreciate the incredibly difficult decisions you made to ensure that he has the best life possible. There will always be hard stages, and easier stages, but your continued presence in his life is an absolute gift and he is so lucky to have you.

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I’m sorry it’s a tough day for you @GoldenRex. Be kind to yourself today.

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