Its hard with family id say do what ur gut tells you but also if u do decide to lend make sure there is a reasonble plan to pay you back.
I know she might ask her paternal nan. I’ll see if she asks me directly. She’s borrowed £ 400 before , and paid it back.
2 Likes
Nobody in my family or friendship circles EVER asks me for money. (They know better than that).
Loaning money to anyone in a personal type transaction always seems to go really well or really bad. Idk, its your call. From the sounds of it its not what you want to do, so if you choose not to help, definitely dont feel guilty or bad about it
1 Like
What kind of jobs do they have? If they have jobs and they’re doing good at them I would take that into consideration. But if they don’t have jobs it would influence my decision negatively. Are they stable, responsible people?
It kind of raises a red flag that they sound broke.
If either of my two sisters needed to borrow money I wouldn’t hesitate lending it to them. I would even lend money to my nephew under certain circumstances though we don’t see each other much. Judging by character, I would loan my family money.
I have to lend money to my parents, my mother in law and my sister in law all the time. One of them always has one of my vehicles.
I have a newer Mustang convertible I pay a car note on and I never have it. Right now my mom and dad have it. The brakes aren’t working in their car and they have replaced everything and they still don’t work. The car is a 98 and has over 250,000 miles on it. They need a new car but can’t afford one.
My sister in law doesn’t have a car either but she is borrowing one from a friend right now. Hers got repossessed. My mother in law needs a new car too. They have both borrowed my car before too.
One day last year I had to come up with about $1000 in cash to pay my sister in law’s rent or they were going to evict her and her kids and throw all their belongings in the street. She did pay me back though. She only have us like 10 minutes of notice. My wife won’t help her sister any more though. We cut her off. She has to ask her Dad now. She owes him a lot.
I don’t know what all these people did before we moved here. We have always lived over a thousand miles away until recently.
My son supports himself though. He is 26 and hasn’t asked me for a dime since he moved out.
Good luck with your decision. To be fair when we were young and broke they all helped us. It’s payback time. That’s what families do for one another.
1 Like
She’s a personal assistant/care worker. She’s one of those people who needs to have a friend or partner, even if that person is not the best influence on her. My stepdaughter is a little wary of her new boyfriend . My granddaughter and the boyfriend have been drinking quite a lot since they’ve been together.
I’m fairly certain she’d pay me back. It would be a case, if I did , as to how much to expect her to pay back each month.
2 Likes
My Dad just called me. He needs more money. He says for his electric bill and his gas bill and some gas money.
Last year I let him borrow a credit card that had about $15,000 of available credit on it. He maxed it out in about three or four months. Took most of it out in cash. He keeps saying he is going to pay me back and is supposed to be getting all this money. But he has been saying that for the last 6 years. He is never getting this money. It’s a long story.
2 Likes
well since she paid you back the four hundred pounds I would say give the the money because they will probably pay you back.
1 Like
I have lent the money. I have said I want it paid back at £25 a week/£100 a month. Perhaps that seems steep(?) but she’d have had to pay interest on a loan from the bank.
2 Likes
Me lending money depends on a
How much I’ve got
B
How much I can trust the person
So if you feel you can trust them then I think it’s fine… To get it back soon not just in a years time or longer!
1 Like
This topic was automatically closed 14 days after the last reply. New replies are no longer allowed.