as mentioned in a previous post, i guess i’m one of the loons who thinks there’s someone/something watching what i do through my eyes and through my phone. it’s good that i’m still self-aware, but it doesn’t make me less comfortable with feeling constantly supervised and judged.
are there any methods to lessen the effects that come with feeling watched? or at least a mentality that would be good to adopt?
it’s keeping me from doing some of the things i’d really like to.
I had the feeling that someone/something
sees through my eyes.
It’s gone now.
i have heard that it either goes away / you get used to it after a certain period of time, but i’m not sure what to do until then.
Who do you think it is who sees through your eyes?
that’s the thing ; i don’t know.
sometimes i imagine it’s just a small crowd of normal people, like you’d find in a grocery store. sometimes it’s just one specific person who i’ve a bad history with.
the only real constant is that they’re always judging me, no matter what i do. even if it’s a normal habit, they will be judging me for having done it.
I guess adopting a “fekk it” mentality works.
I know I’m not interesting. If someone wants to watch me chainsmoke, pick my nose, and binge netflix, then fekk it, that’s their loss.
And if they judge me for it, fekk them. I’m sure they’re equally sinful.
i’ve seem that before, too, but i do think i’m incapable of it. i am just. ridiculously insecure.
maybe there’s no fixing it for me?
thank you, though.
Do you have access to a therapist who could help you work through those insecurities?
How old are you, if I may ask?
i don’t, no. it’s been recommended to me, before, to find one, but i dislike them. i tend to think they do more harm than good.
i’m only sixteen ; which, i do hope it’s okay for me to be here, i didn’t see anything against it, but maybe i didn’t look well enough. i also hope that doesn’t mess with my credibility any?
See the observer part of self as part of yourself. It doesn’t matter so much if you are judging yourself.
It is not an external observer, but from your insides. Try not to be self critical and if you are then rest assured no one else can hear it or feel it.
There is is a therapy called ‘compassion focused therapy’ that helps the user to love themselves more.
that does actually make some sense!
it’s sometimes hard to remember it’s only me in my mind. the judgement is can be convincing enough that i simply fall into the idea that there are several people giving their input (which i can’t even hear (yet.))
but i will certainly try to keep this mind. thank you so much. <3
Talk to your pdoc about it.
Therapists can be very helpful if you find the right one.
And sixteen is deinitely too young to be deemed beyond repair - your brain isn’t even done developing yet.
I have been struggling with this too. It helps to be accepting of yourself, and normal human activities. If they want to judge even the normal human things, how can I allow them any credibility to judge everything else?
I try to remember I don’t know them, and they aren’t offering up themselves to be judged, so why should I take them seriously? It makes it easier to remember they’re full of sh*t.
oh, i only meant in this regard!
not to be edgy, but i am going through a bit of a rough depression, so the thought of changing my mentality about anything is just exhaustingly impossible to me. that’s all. but thanks for the advice!
this is also very helpful! i admire your mentality surrounding it, it is somewhat inspiring ; i can only hope to one day replicate it. this method seems most popular so i’ll consider working towards feeling more comfortable within myself, but i’m unsure how much of that i can really change. thank you!! <3
I always think I’ve got cameras in my apartment.learning to cope.
It helps me to focus on my environment, and senses. The voices are there, but they are just white noise. Irrelevant
I think you’ve got a lot of good advice here.
that i do.
this is a very kind community, i’m happy to have found it.
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