Hi, so yesterday a friend that has borderline personality disorder told me she was going to kill herself at that moment by hanging herself. I called an ambulance and gave her adress, after going to the hospital, her mother picked her up without her being seen by a psychiatrist and called me and her crazy. She made me promise I would not call 911 again. Today I have been nervous because of this, I told my friend I would not talk to her for a while because I dont want to feel bad because of her behaviour or her mother’s. What would you have done if this happened to you?
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Endorse yourself for making the right move!
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People with BPD can be right manipulative little sods, and will often say / do things to ellicit attention. Thats why it has such a bad name, cos you have to double check as to whether they are serious or not.
If shes doing your nut in - do yourself a favour and put some distance between yourselves. You will just get dragged into her own personal drama.
And this is coming from someone with BPD traits thats done his therapy - so i know
what little shites people can be with the diagnosis.
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You did the right thing. If her mom isn’t willing to see that, its on her. I think it is smart to ask for distance right now though. You can’t put yourself in the position of being responsible for your friend’s safety. That job is up to her and her mother.
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My ex wife suffers with borderline.
Man, what a ride that was!
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You did the right thing! Give yourself a pat on the back and remember that you are loved.
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I agree with everyone. You did the right thing!
You may have saved her life, well done. The mother is in the wrong to make you promise not to call in the future, I would call again too. You’re also right to put distance between you and your friend, it sounds like you need a break from the drama.
thank you all for all the replies and support. I have distanced myself from her and will do keep it this way in the future for my safety.
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Hugs. It is hard when you do the right thing and then get yelled at for it.
You did the right things. You called an ambulance and you distanced yourself from her attention seeking drama. Well done 
It was better to be on the safe side and call. The erroneous cliche of the 1970’s and maybe the 1980’s too is that if someone threatens that they are going to commit suicide, then that means they aren’t going to do it. This was how people thought back then. Now we know that if someone says their suicidal and they are going to do it, then there’s a good chance they’ll do it. It’s better to not take any chances and if someone says they are suicidal then take them seriously.
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That sounds like the time I was sharing my studio and paying half rent with a friend ---- he never took his pills and the few times he did he would drool and stumble around which put me it a difficult predicament – call an ambulance or chance he will die? So i called his mother and she insisted that I dont call anyone and happened frequently — to make things worse my room mate had a meth problem
Did it ever occur to you that your friend said she was suicidal because she was suicidal? I am suicidal almost every day of my life these days, and it’s not a ■■■■■■■ front. What looks like drama to you is serious, excruciating emotional pain for that person you call friend.
I understand that, I’ve been suicidal before and alot. But she doens’t want my help and her family don’t want me to interfere so there is nothing I can do. So I’m going to have distance from her and her family.
Some people are truly suicidal for a lot of the time, some others cry wolf. It can be hard to tell the difference sometimes. However it is almost always best to play it safe. It’s a lot better to make a call that ultimately wasn’t necessary than to not make the call and then find out that your friend actually followed through and died because of it.
I think you did the right thing, and are doing the right thing going forward.
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