So i have this ill friend too, who lately calls me almost every day, threatening that she would kill herself… I get paranoid around problems like this, i all shake etc… I also am sick on daily basis and i asked her to not call me after 6 pm…
But she continues to write me every night, threatening with suicide and i ended up by calling her brother, cause i am afraid she’ll take some pills again…
But she does this suicide every time when it doesnt work with a guy. Me, i fight very tough anxiety and paranoia and i get bad around such crisises…
am i so bad to just have called her brother now? I tried to reassure her the other day, but she talks about suicide again and again and she barely even listens me when i tell her that i feel bad too…
idk, i cant handle such problems still because of my anxiety, but i feel bad about it…
She’ll hate me too, that i called her brother 
Am I such a sh**** person, cause I get paranoid about these crises and i cant help? I tried to reassure her two days ago but she started to threaten me with suicide every night… I am bad in socializing, I often cant find the right words cause I am desperate too…
Am i so bad person? I feel guilty that i sent her brother today to see her, but should i listen about suicide every day?
You did the right thing to contact her brother.
You did the right thing by contacting her brother.
You may have saved her life.
If she’s that suicidal she needs to be in a mental hospital for rehabilitation for a while.
no you are not…
But why I do get paranoid around such crises? I blame myself for this… even my mother blames me that I cant handle problems…
This friend doesnt listen me when I try to reassure her… and skips when I tell her when I am anxious…
Yeah, i sent her brother cause she said she has some pills with her which she wants to swallow…
She risks to hate me now this girl…
And me, I should be patient or what? Being so sensible on a threat from a friend like this, idk…
They never helped me in the hospitals either… I tried 11 aps and many ads… My pdoc ended up by saying to stop switching the ap and maybe wait that it’ll work. But I get in pain even physically…
And yeap, I get panicked when my friend threatens to kill herself and cant even listen to this… but the truth is that she doesn’t listen to me either… tbh, I still hide from problems, idk if you have this too 
If they didnt manage to help me for ten years in the psychiatry??? What should I do too? Waiting for the zyprexa to work? I was for ten years in the psychiatry folks… they never helped my head, never, not even by an inch…
Someone else who still deals with symptoms who cant be helped by the meds? I have this conversion disorder as well
You didn’t do anything wrong by contacting her brother you probably saved her life
I think it’s good you called her brother. You clearly can’t handle the problem alone. She probably needs professional help.
i think her threats of suicide could be very harmful and unfair to you. suicide is already a hard to handle topic as is, its uncommon for someone to be able to handle it anxiety or worry free.
she might not be listening to your reassurances or your limits, but that or her own actions will never be your fault. you will never be a bad person to call for assistance for someones life, to try and help. you are not responsible for her actions, reactions, or feelings; thats her own responsibility.
while her life can be on the line, you wont be alone in helping her (and in fact, you should never be the sole supporter). be sure that the other people in her life are advocating for her to get proper help, like you did by calling her brother.
its entirely natural to become upset by someone threatening or talking about committing suicide, and i hope that you refute the self-blame by reminding yourself that its okay to feel how you do, even if it feels terrible. if you are unable to handle listening to her, you need to take a break for your own sake. when you disregard your boundaries in one area, you might cause more stress for yourself when you try to accommodate when youre not ready. take care of yourself, if not for just your own wellbeing, then for her wellbeing too.
She needs to activate her support system and talk to whoever will listen about why and give them a chance to drag her back into the reality that no problem is big enough to justify that. Friends, family, therapists, whoever. It can’t be just you though. I hope her family is supportive and not dismissive.
you did good thing calling her brother. It’s kinda hard that they expect you to handle that while you are sick yourself. It must be difficult situation for you =(
Actually, you handled it perfectly by calling her brother. Also, she sounds like she has borderline personality disorder with the constant threat of suicide every time a relationship doesn’t work out
death i think the most triggering topic
anyone of us can hear about
i think anxiety is a must
when some of my relatives got ill i become very sad cry and very anxious
so thats normal
you should if possible
ask ur doctor or ur pharmacist for calming meds
and fight the triggering thoughts in ur mind untill u stop them
stop exposing urself to the problem again and again
act if it is not of ur business
be cool
Yes, its very hard for me lately to communicate with this girl… She got used to complain only to me, while i get anxious around problems, cause i have my mother every day who is ultra negative and says, that i’ll never get better. I have no support from anyone… This friend started to talk only to me only about problems, while she cant stop talking i find and doesnt want to listen to me… When i say to her, that i am dying from anxiety, she just skips the info and continues to talk about suicide… Anyway, i know i am not good either to talk to, but i fight alone as well… For the borderline thing… well, her pdoc told her, that most of the people with mi, have some borderline traits and she has them as well too, yeap… The truth is, that i was diagnosed also once as borderline too and not sz, but my last pdoc was saying that i have paranoid sz with negative symptoms…
Sounds like a difficult friendship
I take offense to your negative connotation of ECT.
I had such bad depression that I had ECT for 3 separate series. No antidepressants worked. I attempted suicide many times.
I’d like to know how you came to the conclusion that ECT is punishment. Also, please post links to sites that you used to become an expert.
Have you had ECT?