He in court for a serious offence on the 24th October and if convicted will go to prison. He was really foribally asking me to go visit him this afternoon (he’s 22 miles away and on the bus to his house would take 3 hours) so I told him I can’t be bothered and I need to do my laundry after my vacation, I went to sit with my support staff him the kitchen at 4pm and went back to my room at 6pm and looked at my phone and he’s sent me a picture of his deep cut and blooded arm with Goodbye Written and now he’s not responding to messages. He’s done this before many times cutting himself. Now I feel bad for not going to down and don’t know what to do. Should I ring the police. I’m trying to get hold of my Oncall manager from supported living I live but they are not picking up. What should I do.
Yes, I would do so! Better safe than sorry.
I hate to say it but it’s a form of blackmailing you. If he cuts or threatens to cut to get you to do what he wants, that’s blackmailing. It’s still a serious situation so I would call the police and have them check up on him.
Call the authorities and then contact your case manager.
I called the police.
Doesn’t sound like much of a friend, but good on you for having the welfare check done.
He’s not a good friend but I don’t want anything bad to happen to him.
I really do appreciate your input @77nick77 I’ve been told similar by professionals that work with me. He has BPD and this can happen. I phoned the police 999 which is an emergency number here in England. I hope he’s going to be okay but am aware he’s done it before.
I would notify the police.
I’m keeping busy as he hasn’t been on his phone sine 5pm and its now 9pm nearly. He’s not picking up is phone. I rang the police. I spoke to my supported living manger and she’s reassured me that its not my fault he’s cut himself from not going seeing him.
well done for trying to help bc at the end of the day he has harmed himself and needs help, you did the right thing phoning 
Just an update on friend.
Ambulance took him into to hospital, he’s seriously harmed himself. He had to go into theatre for surgery. I’m happy I rang the police because I think it saved his life.
Now my support team are putting a safeguarding in for me to protect me as this is seen as abuse from my friend to me and emotional blackmail. They are worried about my mental health. My supported living manager has informed my community nurse and pdoc.
I’m so glad they’re doing that for you. You did right by calling the police. But, this friendship needs to end. If I were you, I’d never talk to him again
I didnt talk to him for 4 years, completely ignored him after me broke my foot. He wrote to me with a new email and said he’s got skin cancer and he bets I’m happy now he’s going to die. I wrote back to him like a idiot saying thats not the case. He drawed me in. I now think he didnt have skin cancer.
A sick individual sends a friend pictures like that as a ‘punishment’ for not spending time with them…
Usually people would be a few dials back from that!
Not sure if this person is right to hang with if they have problems like that
Hopefully it will get treated as a serious issue, and get dealt with, but I am not familiar with BPD
Good for calling the services, sounds very bad
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