Thinking embarassing thoughts

How do you prevent yourself from thinking embarassing thoughts? I feel so uncomfortable around people. Want to be more confident and outgoing. Think awkward, unwanted sexual thoughts. Miss my old self.

I don’t.
I deal with it. and it’s really annoying

i get thoughts like that too, they are very frustrating. i just try to let them pass

I used to have those a lot when I thought people could hear my thoughts. It has gotten a lot better since being on meds that work.

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this is my life

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I hate intrusive thoughts. The’re destroying my ability to be around my family

Hi lost in space,
I hate my intrusive thoughts too, I feel strange around people, but i believe we can fight this feeling, be thankful for small things, and talk to your doctor about having intrusive thoughts, you don’t have to be specific if uncomfortable, may be he will come up with ways to deal with them.

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Hi @eyeofRa how do you deal with your intrusive thoughts? They must be frustrating.

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The thing with thoughts is, no one really has to know what they are. :wink: I usually just stick to myself when I’m out, if I’m addressed and the other person starts the topics I can pretty much follow along, but I rarely initiate conversations even around people I know…I’ve never been very sociable I think in part because as a teen I had to learn what was really going on around me and what was in my head, so I kept everyone at a safe distance and it’s been my routine ever since…not something I’m proud of, and wish I could be more social but it’s also kept a lot of problems away from me. But then again every time I do take a leap of faith and trust someone to open up with them they do something to eventually remind me why I like being alone and quiet.

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I used to have sexual thoughts creeping into my mind when someone was trying to talk to me. I heard it was normal. You just have to blot them out. Now that I’m old, my intrusive thoughts are more about being harmed than sex. That’s almost funny. It might have to do with feelings of self worth.

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Mine are more random and then I get embarrassed I’m having uncontrollable thoughts and then start freaking out inside my own head because the voices are making fun of the fact that I’m hearing thoughts in my head. And I start feeling like everyone else around me can hear them and is judging me.

Feel the same way!!! Used to have normal thoughts but then someone began to read my thoughts and put pictures in my mind and now I just dream for silence and peace of mind. Also feel like my soundwaves are obstructed.

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Yes, advice would be much appreciated.

I don’t know about the sound waves but I wish for a silent head at least once a day…I know now no one is reading my thoughts, but it sure can feel like it sometimes. Like I remember going to church and every time the priest’s eyes were anywhere near mine he’d know I wasn’t 100% focused on what he was saying and shaming me for it. But in reality I think he was just sweeping the room with his eyes, probably didn’t even really pay much thought to me in passing.

Hi @Lexicon, maybe share with someone what you go thru, or talk to your doctor about it. Also we have to learn to forgive ourselves for them.

If you’re human, “normal or not” it’s just natural that some thoughts you get are a little "out there."
I’d bet it’s not what you think that people can read but more your facial expression- your own reaction that people can read.
The older you get- at least for me, the easier it is to “read” people. Not their minds, but their body language, it’s kinda fun too, especially the unconscious stuff folks do.

Don’t fret about all the strange thoughts you come up with, even if it seems pretty bizarre. The more you try to surpress them, the freakier they get, and then your face follows suite.

Try to simply accept them as part of being human, observe them, and then divert your thinking to something different so they don’t get a tight grip and squeeze your head too hard.

Observe, Relax, Divert.

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My intrusive thoughts are monstrous.

You realize that everyone around you is also having those thoughts and stop worrying so much :grin:

What is your introspective on these type of thoughts now that you don’t experience them?

Allot of my thoughts would be embarrassing but I don’t have to talk about them since no one can hear my thoughts so I’m not bothered by them.