You shouldn’t set yourself up to fail, and by that, I mean having higher than realistic expectations. But if you tell yourself “I am worthless, I will never achieve anything in life”, you’re setting yourself up to fail too!
You should stay positive and try to enjoy life, and focus on what you CAN do instead of what you CANNOT do.
I suppose it’s OK to “let go of your ego” but don’t give up self-regard, pride in what you do, striving for accomplishment, self respect, etc. as I tried to do when I started taking drugs.
“Let go of your ego” is such a subjective thing to say though. I just know when I was tortured whilst on lsd I was coming down and my friend calls me up on the phone he said “YOUR EGO!!!” I said “I KNOW!!” I didn’t know what the f ego meant. What losing my ego for me could be a narcissistic thing in someone else’s opinion. I just know understanding the ego is more important than losing it. Knowing which parts of the ego are bad and which is important to keep has aided me in the long term. At first the ego just confused me. Now I don’t try to suppress it completely rather live with a healthy ego, I finally make social and spiritual progress. And I’m grateful
Who said anything about being superman?
It’s not really surviving if you give up and just wait to die, either.
There should be a balance in it all. Trying to survive is fine, but I believe one should also try to live.
Why compare yourself to normal people?
You should set standards and goals that make sense for YOU, but if you just give up, lie down and wait for it all to be over, your life will be miserable.
I’m not saying this to be mean. But you can’t give up on everything just because life didn’t turn out the way you hoped it would.
It doesn’t even have to be big goals that you set for yourself, it can be something small, and it should be something you’re pretty sure you can do.
@Berru, having low(that is, realistic) expectations from life doesn’t rule out setting small goals.
What I wrote in the opening message of this topic still holds,
and it doesn’t rule out trying to do small things .
Setting the bar of expectations low, and letting go of your ego and ambitions doesn’t mean you have to stop trying.
You can, if you wish try to do things but without ambition.
Without expectations.
Because these things create terrible stress and pressure and drive you nuts.
@anon68148378 to me you are like superman, because the things you do will never be attainable for me.
It is as if I am a cat and you are human.
The gaps are immense between us.