I was worried about this most of my life. I’ve come to accept it is an unanswerable problem. And that a little bit of modesty goes a long way. What do you think?
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They’re almost the same. If there is any difference it is mostly around the edges.
This neighbourhood majority family etc
When you put others down to make yourself feel better.
They prance around saying “I’m superior “ every day.
If so truly was the case they wouldn’t act the way they act.(like bullies hateful vibing me)looking and talking down at me and being disrespectful and trying to suppress me etc
Someone with self worth doesn’t compare themselves to others every second in their favour ofcourse and inciting hate on the one they are jealous of .
They have no grace and class yet they brag every day what superior rich academics intellectuals they are etc
You can be homeless and have more grace and class.
Self worth I think you can learn to set boundaries to not be disrespected unless you are bullied then you have no choice unless you isolate from everyone.
Self worth is important but putting others down to make yourself feel important is not self worth.
All groups think they are superior.
Jews think they are superior, Muslims think they are superior, Scientologists think they are superior, atheists think they are superior, vegan think they are superior then when all of them gang up on you in all their rolls anc you don’t fit in any group or with any people.
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I’ve often wondered about this myself. It’s hard to make a clear distinction between healthy self esteem and just plain ego sometimes for me. I think maybe it is a positive self image that exists on a spectrum or scale. It can fluctuate depending on life’s experiences. Maybe what was just a healthy self esteem can turn into a raging ego depending on what life throws at us. But generally speaking I think the difference in ego and self-worth is that healthy self worth has a do-no-harm inclusion of others whereas a strong ego says I am going to get what I want no matter what others think. Just some of my thoughts on this.
I think self-worth is like self love and how you accept yourself
I think ego is one’s self dependence on oneself and not needing any others but one’s own self and opinions
Ego is an overabundance of self worth.
Ego is self concept which includes thoughts and feelings of your worth.
Self-worth isn’t something you need to engage with for it to be there. It’s simply the absence of a wounded ego that makes you feel confident in yourself. Self-worth doesn’t lead to “thoughts of self-worth” the one that leads to validating or self-commiserating thoughts alike is the ego. An ego is most definetely not an abundance of self-worth, it’s a wholly separate mechanic. Your ego is the one that makes you go when somebody puts you down either “that’s not true” or “that’s true”, your self-worth is the one that makes you go “huh, what?”.
Your self-worth is tied with your self-control and your beliefs of self-efficacy, exercising self-control and restraint naturally builds up your self-worth. Your ego instead is mostly informed by the opinion of other people, by your fears and by your insecurities as well as by what you accept as true about yourself and the world. Your ego isn’t a part of you as much as it is a part of your beliefs, in fact it’s the reflection of your beliefs onto your sense of self. For example you could believe that working is for losers or that working makes you a productive member of society, these beliefs alongside others will be the ones your ego will measure yourself against. Your ego is made up of beliefs, desires, fears etc. etc. reflected onto yourself and it’s all about you judging yourself or the judgment of others, it’s all made up. Your self-worth instead exists outside of all of that and it’s tied with your sense of agency, the stuff you know you can do as well as the stuff you believe you can do because you’ve seen yourself able to do similar things or capable of learning them. Self-worth is the difference between “Sure I can do it, I just need to watch a youtube video.” and “No, I’ve never done it.”.
Lacking self-worth doesn’t make you feel worthless, it makes you feel at the mercy of your life and of others, in other words: powerless. Feeling worthless isn’t something that happens due to an underdeveloped ego, it happens because your ego is overdeveloped, you just happen to run afoul of your own judgments often because you value the judgments of people that really don’t deserve it or because you accept a series of beliefs that don’t do you any good, often inherited by those same people whose judgment really didn’t deserve your investment.
Either way, improving your actual self-worth through setting objectives for yourself and going through with them will naturally help your ego as well by getting rid of a possible sense of powerlessness. Trying to improve your relationship with your ego directly is much harder because all of the aspects that inform your ego are also parts of your worldview and you can’t just start believing different things because you choose to do it. Therapy is possibly the best way to see if there are any traumas preventing your ego from healing or some beliefs about yourself and others holding you back.
Regardless: a healthy ego is still an ego, a fragile or overblown ego are still egos and so is a wounded one. The moment you are thinking about your self-worth you have an ego and your thoughts about your self-worth make up a projection of said ego. Self-worth instead is just pure silent awareness of your self-control and agency. Schizophrenia can very easily affect negatively both your self-worth and your ego but generally speaking your self-worth is much more stable and harder to affect from the outside and focusing your efforts there tends to give better results than engaging with your ego, where often attempts to solve the problem directly can lead to maladaptive behaviours.
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Ones real ones fake. One comes from knowledge and one from ignorance. But perhaps sometimes you gotta fake it til you make it.
Imo you should KNOW your value not just boast about it. I guess that comes from knowing yourself maybe.
Yet everyone who thinks they are worthless is mistaken. We’re all very valuable!!
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