I get bullied by the in-laws and always have. Its very subtle and sometimes not so. My marriage is in a bad place and has been for a long time so naturally they take his side of things. I try to let it all ‘roll off my back’ but it doesn’t.
So tired want to escape.
My own family been deceased nearly 20 years–I only go to these gatherings because my children ask me to-- I skip frequently because of these people and their stupid mind games and constant put downs.
I don’t even feel human around them.
Here is an example–they know I have been diagnosed with schizophrenia so last night after thanksgiving meal they start telling stories about ‘crazy’ people and laughing and acting all superior.
this is interesting you say heavy drinker as my spouse is a heavy drinker and is very negative to everyone and never will admit its negativity. I am tired of being married to an alcoholic for over 20 years I need to get out of this mess. I really really want out.
I’m sorry his family makes fun of the mentally ill around you. You don’t deserve that. If you think you can get along without him, that’s one thing. I love and need my wife. If it weren’t for her I’d be alone, and I question if I could take care of myself. I wish you the best in your future.
Sorry, @dcmouse. Feeling trapped in a situation you don’t want to be in is the worst. Your inlaws sound like ignorant people. And it sounds like the intensity of having to be with them takes a toll on you. Can you talk with your husband about what you’re experiencing? Are your kids grown? Can you talk with them about their dad having a problem with alcohol? Maybe he would agree to stop drinking?
I hope you feel better after awhile. Sometimes I feel like I’ve been prodded in social situations and it takes me awhile to recover.