My therapist wants me to get out of the house more. Which is why she recommended me for groups. Anyway my in laws came up with the excuse that I’m too heavy to ride in their cars (they also wont let me sit on the furniture)
Yesterday my partner and I took her little sister bowling her parents took us in one of their cars. It was fun until I started hearing the angry sounding music on the jukebox. It made me anxious and I started to panic. I calmed down after awhile, but I think I ruined the trip
I hate to say it, but your in-laws sound abusive. At this point, I think you should look into getting some help from someone you trust. And be discreet, for your own safety.
No my partner has to fix the van still but that is the last thing that needs to be fixed in my inlaws mind. They want us to fix the bathroom up, put a furnace in, file bankruptcy. And still pay 1450 a month in bills.
These guys are slowly, slowly, really screwing you over. I don’t know what the end result will be. But it seems they’re crushing your spirit, wrecking your self-esteem and confidence, possibly permanently.
All of us on here are on your side for sure but you have to take a little blame for your circumstances. You’ve been telling us all these atrocities for what, a year now? I can’t believe that two adults (you and your partner) can’t find a practical plan to get out of there over the course of a year or more. I told you before, I let myself be treated similarly in my past when I was young. And being treated so badly (before I had schizophrenia) was almost as worse as schizophrenia symptoms. And I see you are letting yourself be treated the same way. It wrecked my confidence and self-esteem for years. You have to take action. There’s cheap places to live some places in the U.S.A.
You have a computer, you should be on Craigslist an hour a day, checking out housing prices around the U.S.A. Looking for affordable cars. Looking for jobs away from your in-laws. You seem like a nice, respectful person, you deserve better than the situation you are in now. I still think whatever case manager or therapist or psychiatrist you have should be offering you suggestions and help you get out of there. I know what it’s like to be treated so badly and you can’t be happy there on a day to day to basis. You must feel very, very badly.
