It takes 2 to tango. Maybe if people make an effort with me I’ll make the effort back. But I’m bored with unilaterally trying to make it work with people who are mostly interested in the sound of their own voices. 
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You are a bigger person then me. I would make an excuse to not go and stay home
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In social gatherings, I appreciate the people who love talking about themselves since they shield me from having to talk about myself. I consider this a win-win. 
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I agree. But somehow when these people get together everybody gets excluded. There’s no effort to include people in conversations.
lve basically been putting off categorising these people as “rude” and blaming schizophrenia.
But yeah. They’re rude.
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Urgh that’s the worst.
I hate family gatherings too. Good thing I am here.
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I hate going to family gatherings. No one’s ever done me wrong, it’s just that i never have anything to say and i don’t feel the happiness that i used to feel when i was younger. I’m just not that person anymore and feel that i cannot relate to most people. Therefore i prefer not to go if possible.
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My brother in law gets all the attention for some reason he isn’t any more interesting, smart or cool than I am he’s just attention seeking and doesn’t have a history of MI. They don’t even bother to get to know whats on in my life. U know what, couldn’t care anyways what they think.
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I like family gatherings because I get to spend time with family member I don’t see often, but I always dread those questions they always ask.
“So, what are you doing recently? Job? School?”
“Do you have someone special in your life?”
I know they’re trying to start conversations with me, and I appreciate it, but I wish they’d ask me things I have more interesting answers to.
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im the same as yourself @disciple…I rarely have anything to talk about
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I’m not looking forward to these holiday family gatherings.
My family is dysfunctional and full of themselves.
Hopefully my one aunt will be coming over for Christmas and NewYear - she gets me.
I might just spend Christmas Eve in my room again.
Holidays stress me out.
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got one my self, the family is torn from a loss of two members, we all feel out placed as they did all the cooking and cleaning home making. my son’s antie sharel got the city to rent us a building in the citys park.
my step son and family and my step gal and her family i guess just ever one is bringing food. i am making BQ baked bean’s. my X is making green bean casaroll the oldest leary well bethere too. just that the madness never ends. but one a year.
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I enjoy pointedly staring at my phone when certain of my wife’s relatives try to engage me in conversation.
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The looking at phone trick. That’s a good one too 
So anyway I went. It turned out that the whole extended family wasn’t there just my brother and his wife and kids. That wasn’t what I was expecting at all.
I actually enjoyed myself.
I feel embarrassed now.
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Nice job on going. Don’t feel embarrassed. 
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I really hope I have family here. unfortunately, there are not.
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I totally understand how you feel.
I do not do good in big groups of people. Family or not, it does not matter.
When I was young I didn’t mind the gatherings but of course I was not tortured by negative voices putting me down way back then.
Luckily in probably the past ten years or so, it has usually only been me and my two other immediate family members(the same two I live with.)
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I’m glad you enjoyed yourself. 
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I don’t mind the immediate family gathering but the one with aunties and uncles and cousins I hate going to.
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“Don’t you know it’s rude to stare at your phone and ignore the person who is talking to you?”
“Yes. Unfortunately, you’re stupid or you would have gotten the hint and left me alone five minutes ago.”
One less of her cousins I have to deal with in the future.
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