I am sick and tired of this. I find my behaviour hard to get a grip on.
I will find a job… I’ll go in for a few weeks, I’ll be fine and do extremely well, I’ll be happy, very motivated, and then things will start to go down hill, I will start to feel small in comparison to my colleagues, and then I will go through a phase and call it quits. And then I will find another job and the whole cycle will begin again. I am sick and tired of this. I can’t stop this behaviour of mine. I find it emotionally draining to be around people for long periods of time.
Maybe you need to find the right people to be around?? I get sick of people too. It’s why I wanna work in a store/shop dealing with new customers every day. And hope to have good co-workers too 
I like my co-workers now but i’d rather work with men than women because I get sick of women in the workplace when I’m around them too much.
Do you find it tiresome to talk to people? Or simply be around them?
If it’s the latter, you can simply ignore your surroundings by wearing headphones and concentrating on your job…
Both really, anything that involves interacting with people for long periods
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You can look for a job that lets you work from home !!
It’s called work for a reason. If it was fun it’d be called fun.
You did great at your last job. It just ended because it was a temp position. This current job just isn’t a good fit for you, and that’s not your fault.
Yes you’re right. I’m not asking the job to be fun. Most my jobs have been fun except for the work relationships that drained me emotionally. Finding myself crying in the toilets at work and then crying to my manager and taking it out at home.
Yes my last job ended because it was temp. A month before it ended my manager hired someone and asked me to train her and then she told me there’s too many staff I have to go.
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But you did it, and you did it well. You weren’t fired, you didn’t quit. Your contract expired. This current job is hurting your self-esteem, but you are a good worker. You just need to be in the right environment.
Also, don’t forget to take into account that you are still dealing with grief and a medication change. That would throw anyone off their game. The problem isn’t you. It’s the circumstances you’re dealing with.
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See my emotional programming post 
Were creatures of habit and often go through the same things, I know I do, Finding a job that fits well with it is hard, I have a job that suits me well, Just took me half a life time to find it
You should always give yourself a week before you try to quit… and then always see the two weeks through.
It’s some tough ■■■■ to do, but bad work days come and go.
I’ve had half a dozen days so far where I’ve felt like walking out or getting something else sorted out for myself once I get off work at the regular time.
It’s funny because I’m an exceptional worker… I thought if I really push it it’d by me some leeway. In a lot of ways it did, however I also have to bare higher expectations and more responsibility.
Last Sunday I was on the register for a solid hour. Finally, it picked up to the point the actual register folk had to step up so I took like a 5 second break and spaced out after bagging up an order. My manager chewed me out for lolligagging…
It was totally lopsided appreciation of my performance that morning. I was more or less the only one in hospitality taking care of people at once and I had to do so for a good chunk of time there. I now know that even with a small pause available for myself I have to gloss over it and wait under the register lines are completely empty and no one is waiting to be helped.
Anyways though, the boss was running a fever last week. He wasn’t the most chipper or kind but he still maintained a great deal of fairness otherwise. I work with some really great people and that helps tremendously.
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@Azley I find my manager hard to approach for help. Going to her results in her saying I already showed you once go look in your notes. That takes 30 minutes to do as there’s so many notes. I think I know that I’ve had enough. It’s the first job I’ve had that’s actually lowered my confidence to do a job. All those weeks I’ve stuck to it in hopes I’ll go permenant because she likes my work. Today I feel content I’m not going back.
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I worked for many years in extremely stressful positions sometimes 16h per day for months on end and of the two times I quit i only don’t regret 1. In my experience having your boss tell you to review your notes is a reminder that you should always review your notes before asking a question. The same goes with reviewing your own work before handing it in. In some ways he/she is trying to make you a better employee.
The next part of my comment refers to what your goal of working is. For me it was for money to pay the rent and save for other things. I had to suffer a lot of grief, but I did it because I wanted something outside of work that working would allow me to get. What’s your motivation? If you repeatedly quit your jobs how do you save money and how do you expect to have a lasting career? Overall I know that I thought about quitting a lot and I believe many people feel the same way but they stick it out.
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Maybe a temp service would keep you in that mode of how you do for the first month. You could always be the new guy and not be expected to communicate as much. Request to be moved often .
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Maybe you need a new line of work that’s more suited to your needs. You are kind of like me in a certain way. I’ve had over thirty job since I was 17. i didn’t last more than a few months at many of them. I got fired from a lot, I walked off the job in the middle of the day on some of them or just gave notice and quit.
But we seem to be similar because the running joke in my family for years was that I had no problem finding jobs and getting hired but I just couldn’t keep them for very long. Before I got sick I never lasted more than three months. But after I got sick my first job getting back into the workforce I stayed for four years. And I have stayed for four years unloading trucks, and three year at stocking shelves.
Personally, any failure I’ve had at job does not predict how well I will do on my next one. I’ve gone from only lasting a month at a job and then my next job I last two or three year. I get fired and my next job I last 8 month etc.
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That’s a bummer, really!
@Moonwalker I agree with your final comment. But I’m not looking for a “lasting career”. I’m looking for a job I can manage. Because I know what happened when I did not quit a job and kept going despite the warning signs of stress. I became psychotic and the psychiatrist made me stay out of work for six months. I regretted quitting every job. Even the one where I got ill. But if I quit before I got ill and taken the precautions I would not have gotten ill in the first place.
I’ve had a lot of jobs over the years. Never lasted more than 3 and a half years at any of them. Now, I haven’t worked a full time job in over 24 years. I don’t think I could ever work again. I am too out of practice. And, no recent job history. No one will hire me anyway. If Trump manages to take away my SSDI, I am screwed.
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