I remember when I was a kid I would always follow him around wanting to do stuff with him. He would tell me to go away, basically to ■■■■ off.
As we got older he spent more time with his friends, kinda neglecting his relationship as a brother. When I was 13 he got me to smoke weed for the first time and shortly after I was hooked, which led to my pscyhotic and anxiety issues.
Sometimes we can have a good time, but we really only ever talk about real things when he comes home drunk and stumbles into my room. Whenever I try to talk to him sober he doesn’t want to.
He asks me for my and takes a long time paying me back, spending it on alcohol and other things instead of respecting that I gave him money. I’m definitely mean to him, but it’s never out of nowhere for no reason. I end up saying mean things, I remember when I was younger I would tease him, but he would do the same.
I don’t really know. I doubt I’ll have much of a relationship with him in the future if he doesn’t change, which he has told me he doesn’t want to. It used to make me sad, I cried when he left for college.
What are your relationships with your siblings like?
I have 3 sisters, 3 brothers, and a half brother. My relationships are nonexistent with all but one sister. And that remaining had only been there for a couple years and is about to go flat again because she’s moving to a small village outside Nairobi and I’ll never see her again. I’ve only even met my half brother once. Here’s like 20 years older than me and loved in a different part of the country.
My family doesn’t give a ■■■■ about me, so I don’t put any effort into relationships.
I have one sister. We are on good terms but I hardly ever see her. She lives in a different state, so one of us would have to fly to have a visit. But we both have our families and it makes it hard to plan a trip.
When we were younger, we would hang out a lot together. We would hang out at this pizza place and talk for hours, then go see a movie. It was fun.
I have zero relationship with my brother and I actively avoid him. At first I felt really guilty because he’s family and tried to work on it, but eventually I realized that he’s not someone I would want to be around if he wasn’t family and stopped putting in the effort.
I have an older sister, 1 year and 3 younger brothers…basically little babies of mine as the oldest was born when I was 12.
Before diagnosis and life I lived with my sister for a bit and I did some terrible things to her. Nothing over the board but I just wasn’t understanding and treated her poorly. I regret that totally and I’m glad we now have a decent relationship.
It’s a complicated thing but we have a great family. It helps if your parents and grandparents are loving people…they tend to bring families together. I’m glad for that!