Someone talk some sense into me

I left my therapist because she shaved off about 15 minutes ever session.
Her sessions were 45 minutes long for everyone else and just 25 to 30 minutes long for me.

At first I thought that my sessions were shortened because of insurance purposes but later I found out that she was just taking advantage of my situation.

My brother was telling me that she was cheating me and that I should see someone else.

So I stopped seeing her a couple of months ago.

I went to see this one social worker for one session but he did not accept my insurance so I’m still searching for another therapist.

But lately I’ve been having the urge to go back to see my old therapist.

Am I crazy?

I guess I’m very comfortable with her.
I was with her for many years.

What do you guys think?

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One of my therapists did this; but I had seen him for over well a year.

We had hour long sessions, but as time grew; he started shortening them. But he told me of this beforehand and didn’t charge me extra.

Dont know how it is in your situation @Wave

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Have you talked to her about why your sessions were shortened? That may be a good place to start for making a decision to see her or not.

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That’s a tough situation @Wave. It can be helpful to have a familiar face in the struggle, but at the same time she shouldn’t of taken time off of your sessions without discussing it with you first.

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@Hemy @Schztuna she told me that she was going to see me for about half an hour a week.
But during this time she never gave me a reason.
This was a couple of years ago.

I recently asked her why my sessions were shortened because I though that it was insurance related.
She said no it wasn’t related to my insurance.

She said that 30 minutes was all that I could handle in her opinion.

I don’t know what to believe.

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I rarely see my therapist for more than 20 to 25 minutes but am scheduled for an hour. We just discuss how I am doing right now. If I dig into the past we would be at it awhile.

If she helps you I think that’s good enough. Good therapists are hard to find.

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There very well might be a therapeutic reason for this. I doubt if she is doing it just to manipulate you out of money.

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If you feel like you’re getting what you need with 30 minute sessions I’d say go for it. 30 minute sessions can be therapeutic and beneficial as well. You already have a comfortable and established relationship with your therapist and that can be really helpful in and of itself.

Good luck with your decision!

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Yeah we ended it on a good note.
She kept the door open and was genuinely sad.
I’ve known her for many years.

She told me that if I had a major issue, she would see me for longer than 30 minutes.

She also asked me if I wanted to see her for longer than 30 minutes that would be fine.

Edit: I just got off the phone with my brother and he reminded as to how useless my last therapist was.

Maybe he’s got a point.
I’ll keep looking for another one.
Even though I’m out of my comfort zone.

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Thanks @Schztuna but I think I’ll keep looking.

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Maybe you can find someone who takes payment based on your income.

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She doesn"t sound like someone you can trust in any situs

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I think you’re right.
Thanks @pob

My therapist often ends the session with me early too. Mostly, she just asks me how I’m doing. She rarely gives me advice except at one point to apply for disability. Occasionally she’ll have some advice for me though, and it’s free advice!

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Taking the time down to 30 minutes puts you in a kind of maintenance mode. Time enough to deal with any issues that arise with an extension if necessary. Take this as a good sign. I doubt she would cut the session short to be greedy, she would have more to gain by extending the session. She just thinks your are handling things well, or are stable. If you want more time, give her a list of issues to discuss.

Just my two cents.

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