I think I made a huge mistake scheduling the job interview for tomorrow. I’m not ready. For one thing I’m not prepared for questions. For another I’m barely leaving the house these days and haven’t talked to anyone else other than bf and the social worker friday. The social worker is trying to encourage me to get out to meet people. I’m so lonely, I didn’t realize it until I told her and had a good cry about it. But I have this crippling anxiety about meeting new people and even maintaining those relationships I have.
I’m not even sure this is the job for me. I don’t want to disappoint my bf. The meeting is at 1pm so I could call and cancel first thing in the morning and not burn any bridges.
Am I doing the right thing or is this stupid? I think I need to work on myself before I can get a job.
if you think tht the other person is someone you know, for instnce an aunt or someone then you will bring your unconscious throught to your conscience.
its a bit like acting
dont worry about the questions because not all interviews have the same quesions.
i was once interviewed by a dog!!
well i had to face the dog, but talk to the woman who was on my right, so i turned o face her, but she got up and moved me to face the dog again.
however, because the dog didnt jump on my knee, i didnt get the job.
I think you’re doing the right thing. It’s normal to feel anxious beforehand. Look at it as practice, as getting an inside look at the interview process, so if you’re not ready right now, you’ll be more prepared when you are ready.
Just my thoughts but when I was in your condition and interviewing I found I was trying to hard and not wanting any awkward silence. I found myself rambling. I would error on the silent side. Better to be viewed as shy or quiet than strange. Take a deep breath and go for it, if only for the experience of the interview. If I waited to be ready to return to work my recovery would have taken so much longer. Best wishes
Just walk into that interview like you own the place. Confidence is sexy! Reverse it…interview THEM about why you should want to work for their company.
I often miss opportunities because I’m always waiting for the “perfect time” to do something. 99% of the time the perfect time does not occur. Sometimes you just have to weigh your options and jump in on faith alone. I’m not telling you what to do, I’m just kind of telling you what I think. You have to put yourself first sometimes even if you disappoint someone else. Maybe not going to this job interview will not be a catastraphy. There’s an awful lot of jobs out there and a lot of time to go after them. Your situation might be a lot more complicated than I’m making it out to be and maybe I’m over-symplifying things.
I think you should go for it. Even though you may not think you are prepared just do it. The reason being is that it is good practice. I haven’t been to that many job interviews lately but I can tell you that they normally ask if you know anything about the company and what they do. So just a little research will help. Also ask the question “tell me about yourself” a lot.
It was terrible. I got there on time, then had a meltdown in the parking lot. When I pulled myself together I was 5 minutes late. At the first question, tell us about yourself, I broke out in tears after a minute of silence. I ended up saying sorry for taking up your time and then I left.
Patrick is right. It’s not the end of the world. Chalk it up as a learning experience. I’m not discounting the fact that it upset you greatly but I make mistakes every day. In fact if I don’t make at least three mistakes before lunchtime, then I count my day as a failure, lol. Sorry, I’m just trying to cheer you up!!
Several years ago I had a job interview with a library I was supposed to go to. Right around the time I was supposed to be there I flaked out for some stupid reason and i missed it. I called up the lady who was going to interview me and asked if I could re-schedule. She didn’t even bother calling me back. So what? A month later I got a job working at a major department store and I stayed there for 3 years.
One failure does not define you. There is no rule or law in place anywhere that says, “Well, Skims, blew one job interview so that means she will never succeed again”. Past failures do not predict our futures. Maybe try to prepare yourself better for the next time. Go online and peruse the many websites that get you ready for job interviews and give you samples of what employers will ask you and how you should answer them.
It is ok. You’ll do better in your next interview. I had an interview where my mind went blank and I did not get hired but my next interview I looked up possible interview questions online and wrote down my answers and memorized them until they became second nature. On my next interview I aced answering questions and I got hired.
Takes guts to push yourself to do something you may not be ready for. I feel for you but good job trying. Your time will come when you are prepared. Don’t give up, there is a job for you. I would try volunteer work might take the pressure off even if for only a few days or weeks. You have the worst behind you and you made it through. Best wishes on your search and I admire your courage.
I’m not sure why I don’t believe in myself. I’ve made it this far. I just don’t feel ready yet to take the next step.
The voicemail the employer left was detailed about the position as I didn’t even get to ask about it in the interview before I left. Now that I actually know more about the position I’m not sure its for me. It would be close to home and the hours are good. But its not with the type of client or facility that I think I want to start my career off in. It would be at a lower pay than at other new grad positions locally too.
I went to the library and got some job search books. Reading “What color is your parachute?” and working on some of the worksheets/petals in it. Trying to figure stuff out. Like the book questions you about your preferred working conditions, physical conditions, and preferred kinds of people to work besides and serve. Its very interesting to think about. Apparently by using this self-inventory to find a job there is a 84% success rate or something.
