And I’m really anxious. My belly is upset and my tics are on overdrive. Being around my parents is hard. I feel like they think I’m an idiot and a disappointment, and one of the voices backs it up. She says “shameful, useless” and " dumb ■■■■■".
I get scared my parents are planning to exile me from the family for being such an embarrassment. I’ve caused them so many problems.
I could use some words of encouragement and calm, if you folks have any to spare. Thank you.
Just be yourself. They want to see you or else they wouldn’t have made plans. I hope it’s an enjoyable visit.
Have an exit plan if you get overwhelmed.
“Excuse me, I’ve got a bad headache and need to go lie down in a dark room for a bit.”
…is a fave of mine. It’s polite enough and it works.
Family can be difficult to deal with for anyone. I used to dread family parties because I didn’t ever have what they would think is a good or honorable life going on. Also they would tease and pick on me quite a bit. My best advice is to try to keep conversation superficial and on the surface. If they pry into personal space then just give a generic answer or try to change the subject or go to another part of the room. Or maybe read a few articles about assertiveness and respectfully let your boundaries known. I know the knots in the stomach feeling of dealing with family and I wish you have the smoothest experience possible.
I love @shutterbug ’s idea. I hope it helps.
Thanks for the encouragement. The visit went well. 
Thanks for the tip. I escaped to the bathroom and that helped.
Thanks for the reply. I know what you mean. I don’t have much going on in my life and I feel like they’ll judge me for it. I appreciate your words.
That’s good! You’re welcome.
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