If anything controversial happens, my friends are the first to talk to me about it. And it could be any group but whenever that happens I always feel like I’m looking at these things differently then everyone else. I’m always skeptical when everyone else is so certain. And then I’m treated like I’m doing things for attention or whatever because they can’t (or try to) comprehend where I’m coming from. I feel like everyone else wants to jump into the same idea just because everyone else is doing it. They have no standards for filtering their beliefs. And that doesn’t really bother me. What bothers me is how they treat me or view me and anyone else who has a differing opinion. It’s like the disconnect isn’t even in just the views we have, it’s in how we go about coming to them. And just because mine is different, or they don’t understand it, it must be malicious or something to that idea.
Too long didn’t read version - People are stupid sheep and to them I look like a wolf.
I’ve always gravitated to the unusual. I made friends with people who weren’t the popular kids but had a bit of smarts about them. I’m still friends with like half a dozen people I knew in high school. Some are crazier than me although I’m the only one who’se schizohrenic.
Most are a little different and that is why it works. I don’t judge them and they don’t judge me. We get along in all the madness. Yeah people are stupid but you pick your friends. Might be time to find some others…try a different group/sporting club/group meeting or something.
Took me a long while to learn that not everyone is worth spending time with!
This is my first time being fully capable of putting these feelings into words. It has a pretty considerable affect on my mood to the point where I have to tell my PDoc.
Yeah I’ve been doing that. Wondering where I should place my intellectual side to where I can feel as if I belong. Hasn’t been very successful in a long time.
It’s not easy but it’s worth it. You can’t let people bring you down and you need to look after yourself. It’s time to prioritise. Not all your friends may be bad but you need to be around those who help you out! That is a true friend who’se there in the bad times!
Something like this happens to me, but in a different way. I feel like the sheep and they are the wolves.
Many times, just to avoid controversy, they give me the reason like I were fool. If they do not understand my point of view, they do not try to understand my reasoning, they leave me for a weirdo, only for the fact that they believe that they are always right. So we can never enter into a discussion, because they do not understand that I can be in some moments above their understanding.
Feeling above people isn’t about being a friend. It’s thinking your above them…there’s that old adage. "Treat people the way you expect to be treated yourself. "…Start with yourself and get that right before you start on other people!
There’s a lot of work to be done on myself before people would be comfortable with it, if ever. I just try to avoid controversy or really anything in the news but I’ve also studied logic so whenever those things do come up I have lots of questions that people don’t seem to like because they challenge their ideas on the subject so it makes them feel inferior. And then they try to do the same to me and if they are successful they don’t want to continue the conversation. It’s a lot like an mental and social hit and run.
But since I’ve found people to be offended by the curiosities I have on the subjects they bring up, I just avoid asking them all together if possible. But if they bring things up, I’m unable to not ask strange questions. So to them, I am told that I just shoot my “hot takes” without not looking too much into the subject. Which is true, to an extent. It takes a lot of time to come to a good conclusion on fleeting topics. Especially since people want to be done and over with as soon as they see it’s over. But that does not mean I do not have my own experiences with similar things or have not looked into things just like that.
Life is living and you live and learn. People are people and that is politic and it’s a worthy thing to learn. It’s not the politic of governments …it’s the politic of human beings.
Simple things. Listening to a person is best. Know what they are saying…know how to engage them. Talking isn’t about anything but give or take. You study logic. That is cool so your smart enough but most human language isn’t about meaning or logic it’s about social function.
It’s ok to have opinions. It’s ok to be smart. It’s also ok to like people who you’ll fight with tooth and nail. That is life. I know it’s hard but it’s worthwhile trying. Bring it in a bit! Don’t put high expectation on it and above all don’t judge! I can be friends with right wing people. I’m an extreme leftist but that isn’t the place to draw the line. WE are people! Nothing more, nothing less!