I met her in the hospital, she’s 51. Really nice woman. She’s like mixed heritage but calls herself black if that matters. But we hit it off in the hospital. Then we get out and she’s like wanting to marry me. She keeps telling me all this stuff I thought she was like a friend/mentor but she wanted to be lovers. I made it clear I don’t and haven’t talked to her in a month or more. Well now I’m having shitty thoughts on a shitty day and think I should text her. But am I using her?? I wanna say that she’s a beautiful person cuz she always says it to me and that I’m sorry I haven’t stayed in contact and ask how she is. Thoughts?? She was madly in love with me. But I love her in a different way.
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If you’re texting her because you’re lonely and not because you just genuinely want to talk to her,
Yes.
Even more so if this is just a sex thing.
You probably shouldn’t contact her at all.
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I’m not lonely she just knows the right thing to say.
It might give her the wrong idea.
She seems unable to control her feelings, and trust me, you don’t want to get sucked into that.
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We never had sex. She’s too old for me I think she’s pretty but not to have sex. I don’t use people for anything I wouldn’t wanna risk hurting her.
No?
No.
Yeah, sort of.
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I just thought we come from way different backgrounds but yeah you’re right.
You’d understand if you lived within 1000 miles of me (not trying to be a douche)
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@anon9798425 I think I got my answer. You can lock this thread or delete it.
This woman was so wise though
That’s why I liked her. She had so much wisdom it was insane. I missed her today. But wish she could be how I wanted.
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She helped me more than anyone ever. But @Pikasaur is right. I’m not lonely I’m at my friends house I gotta go.
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How long did she know you before she fell in love with you and wanted to marry you? It’s a different culture in the hospital, people act and say things inside that they wouldn’t say or do on the outside.
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You sure? I don’t mind keeping it up if you want to.
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Like 3 days in the hospital and one date
Keep it up I just thought it was gonna go sour.
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And you don’t wonder how a mature woman of 51 can actually fall in love with someone in such a short time and want to marry them? I know you said you don’t want to marry her or have sex with her but I could guess how that marriage would go.
Probably not good… I could imagine. She talked about moving out west or something. I couldn’t leave my family.
How old are you, @Jonnybegood?
28 in less than two weeks
Dude that’s a bogus situation to entertain seriously…
I’ve wound up getting creeped on by some elderlies… enough so that my trust in most everyone has been jeopardized.
At the end of the day for a whole lot of folks everything just boils back down to sexual relevance and it’s a disheartening thing to see.
She would be taking advantage of you my friend… regardless of what it looks like. She’s 50 and this contemplation is an obvious sign of naivety. You’d be a dream boat for her, but it’s her expectations that aren’t going to break.
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