My guyfriend seem to be getting a lot closer and talking more and i think its a safe bet that he likes me. But due to my sza I dont think I can take a hint. I’m the one that always initiates contact. I’m afraid that of I don’t somehow keep him on a short leash I’m gonna lose him.
Don’t be afraid to lose him,change different mentality,be more positive it will be better
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For some reason he brings out the positive in me but I’m still not sure where its going. My family told me to move on…I think their wrong though. I would rather pine after mr right then end up with mr wrong.
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I’d say… don’t worry about being with this person forever… enjoy the conversation and enjoy the friendship.
If he’s a good friend… he’ll stick around. Good friends can grow.
I’m glad you have a friend who do bring out the positive in you. enjoy that part… worry about the future can kill a relationship pretty fast.
I used to do that… and then think the worst… and then get all upset and worried… and the person couldn’t take my catastrophic thinking and had to go.
Now… let if flow… be a friend… and if he’s in it to be supporting and be a friend… he’ll be glad he met someone like you… if he’s in it for a fly by night… he’ll fly away very soon.
Good luck and glad you have some new people in your life.
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Thank you 
We have been talking for a year now. We met at work. He was out of state this last year but is back. I find him motivational. I’m already thinking about seriously getting a part time job again.
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when it doesn’t look like ’ stalking '…lol 
take care 
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Having been “confused” =and= having come to know a lot of others looking for the Rulebook, it occurred to me that life might get easier if I learned to how use my ability to see, hear and feel… than to depend upon the opinions of others. 'Cause, ya see, I did just that for years, and it had a lot to do with making me so sick I woke up twice in ICUs after swallowing the entire medicine cabinet.
Oh no, that is terrible. I took a bottle once and had to get my stomach pumped. I’m afraid now that if I do it when I’m feeling down, I will have to repeat my entire life .like deju vu.
If you really want to know if he is into you, just ask him. Do you want to still be friends with him if he’s not interested? If so, just be real casual. it doesn’t have to mean you’re suddenly dating, but if you know you’re both on the same page, it might be less stress in your life. Just like, “Hey, have you ever thought about us romantically?” Or however you want to say it. As long as you don’t make a big deal about how much you’re feeling, it should be fine no matter what his response is.
Does he know about your sz? Because I find it is usually better to be up front with that info with a potential romantic partner. That way, if it is gonna scare them off, you don’t have as much invested in them. But usually people don’t care as long as you’re a nice person.
And some guys might be okay with constant texting, but usually, people tend to like a little personal time too. You said you always initiate contact, so next time, let him initiate, and use how long he takes as a gauge of how often he wants to text.
Yes we are both mentally ill, so that a big source of our connection. I’ve broached the topic of dating a few times and then he asked me out. It never happened so I let it lay. If I wait for him to text me I might as well change my number and wait because it will never happen. He has a few times after we talked. Oh idk 1 days to a week. But it mostly me who initiates contact. Though he usually gets right back to me and seems happy I can tell by his pictures.
Ah well if he has MI too that changes things, because he might have confidence issues. So hey, you probably know more about your relationship than some stranger from the Internet. It sounds like whatever you do is working.
Thanks! I hope it is. I really appreciate the advice and support!
the guy is supposed to be doing all the pining from what i know, he is supposed to make all the moves i heard
You heard? Lol I agree with that. Not really sure how this happened.