I’ve been sitting at the same seat in the clubhouse for about three months. At the other end of the table a gay guy sits. This girl wanted to talk to him, so she came up and sat down between us. I kept getting these signals the whole time I was there that she wanted me to leave. I’d been sitting in that seat for a long time, and I had every right to stay put. If she didn’t like my company she and her friend could go somewhere else. She was actually saying I’m not good enough to sit by her, under any circumstances. I find that offensive.
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Did she say this?
You tend to believe women send you “signals” a lot. People don’t communicate that way. Believing you can read some unspoken language is a delusion.
Have you told your pdoc or therapist about these beliefs?
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They say that 90% of communication is nonverbal. You can get a powerful idea across without stating it verbally.
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So what are the non-verbal cues you have picked up on?
I have to agree with Zombie, Crimby. You have told numerous stories where you think you know what other people are thinking, not just women, or what their intentions were. I think this is something you need to check yourself on sometimes and ask yourself if it really is true or if you are just imagining it.
I obviously can’t say for sure that you’re wrong in this case, but past posts seem to indicate this.
You’re welcome to sit by me @crimby, especially if you flash some ankle.
You can also imagine that someone is thinking something they aren’t. As someone that constantly believes that people are thinking bad things about me, when I actually speak with them it couldn’t be farther from the truth.
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Is it possible there’s some other reason?
Sometimes I notice when I’m on the bus for example people change seats after sitting next to me. I realized it was my personal hygiene was the issue…I just shower more now lol
Some people are stuck up and give off bad vibes.
Last weekend my boyfriends niece and her dad didn’t say hello to me although they said hello to my boyfriend who was next to me they wouldn’t even look at me or acknowledge I was there.
Really rude but everyone else was love love lovely so I ignored their rudeness.
It’s great your able to go out and socialise.
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One thing she did was turn her chair and back away from me as I sat minding my own business. She moved her chair as far away from me as she could get. Stuff like that. Like I said, you can convey some strong messages without saying a word.
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