I love kisses and cuddles but sex makes me feel uncomfortable. I get little pleasure out of it. I used to have a normal sex drive but now I have virtually none. I am disgusted by masturbation if I do fall into that I hate myself. I could happily avoid sex for the rest of my life. But not kisses and cuddles!
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I masturbate but I hate it because my sexual desires revolve around dominance fantasies and I hate that. I donāt like my sexual desires so I prefer-need- actual sex with a partner. It takes care of that urge without the fantasies.
I donāt like being left to my own thoughts sexually, since Iāve had traumatic experiences that has led me to have what I consider an unhealthy sexual desire to be hurt. I prefer the intimacy, in fact Iām used to just sex without the pillow talk, because of a partner whom Iāve been sleeping with for several years (he says weāre not friends, we just have sex). The kind of non-intimacy about it is calming to me, in that I donāt have to get too many feelings involved or worry about what heās thinking.
I wish there was a pill that you took that gave you an orgasm, no need for fantasies or partners. That would be awesome~
this also explains why men are not as smart asā¦
is it possible for a woman to be physically unable to have sex on meds?
i just feel like my body doesnt work - used to be quite sex crazy - changed my meds
My meds killed my sex drive but even before meds, I preferred masturbation. I had sex for all the wrong reasons. The least of which was because I actually wanted to have sex with that person.
I miss snuggling, holding hands and the best friendship. I donāt miss the sex.
I donāt care much for sex. I might post a lot about dating but I feel incredibly lonely and thatās my driving force behind the incessant dating
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When I was in my 20ās I got into a really bad relationship in which I was repeatedly raped. After getting out of that relationship I lived by myself for many years.
Five years ago I met a wonderful woman with schizophrenia. I lived in a condo, she lived in a condo, and we dated with no intimacy. Two years ago we sold our condos, and she moved into a house I bought. The first night we slept on a Queen bed her toe touched my calf, and I elbowed her in the head. It was a reflex, but I knew I had a problem, so I slept on the floor in a corner for a few months (literally). She came up with the idea of rolling up a thick blanket and running it down the middle of the bed to prevent physically touching. Now I can fall asleep with our bodies touching.
Also, I didnāt enjoy sex for about the first two years (I was masturbating to porn), but making love became more enjoyable over time (I now prefer it to porn).
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I also had the problem with being touched at all while I was asleep. We made our barrier out of pillows and many thick pajamas. Now, though, I prefer touching him when I sleep.
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I still have a sex drive but Risperidone has really made it extremely difficult to climax.
My libido has been greatly affected by Risperidone use.
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I donāt even fantasize about it ā these antipsychotics just eliminated all interest, probably masturbated 2 or 3 times in past 5 months
Just to clarify, my husband and I have a ānormalā amount of sex on a regular basis BUT I often find myself befuddled by arms and legs and getting it to work without getting jabbed in the chest. My physical frustration tends to turn to a feeling of needing space. I will actually reach a state of high-level agitation just trying to make it to the act and then I donāt even want to do it. It feels too clunky. I think itās my PTSD, especially if I have any pain because pain tends to couple with my PTSD and cause me to retract and push away. Then intimacy is really out of the question. We can ā ā ā ā but thatās about as romantic as itās going to get.
I do masturbate more than I have sex. I blame that Iām in my mid-thirties still while my husband is 8 years older and not in his sexual peak but there may be more to it than that.
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I too have PTSD. Iām gay and my partner and I have sex about two times a week but it all depends on her work schedule. I never masterbate. I pleasure her usually and get nothing in return which is fine. I prefer to help her with her sexual frustration.
Hereās an app that tells you what days of the month you can be sexually active.
Do you have one for males perhaps? Maybe based on moon cycles or something?
Nah, it is in cycles though for males, each new cycle beginning at orgasm and gradually getting more and more out of control, so itās not really a cycle, just a sloped line if you were to graph it.
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When with a woman, I definitely get aroused. But, in the interest of maintaining my celibacy, I abstain, with much difficulty. But, I do abstain. God is more important to me than a few moments of pleasure.
I had an extremely high sex drive until the most recent medication which have been on for the last 10 years
Now there is virtually nothing and completely incapable and arousal is almost impossible
My husband who was a virgin hasnāt had anything to compare which makes me quite sad
All at the price of mental stability
My sex drive destabilises me completely when itās strong
As for cohabiting couldnāt do it with a high sex drive
Iām just too nervous and afraid of men who are fully dominant
If I can get a rock hard erection by myself but have trouble getting it up with a partner, does that mean I have performance anxiety or is it erectile dysfunction?
I canāt have intimacy of any kind because the voices creep me out! When I do I have to wear earplugs to drown them out. Talking dirty is out of the question. Schizophrenia ruined my sex life.
I still had a sex life after schizophrenia, even when on Risperdal the worst medicine I have taken. When there is physical contact everything is different. Now I am lonely and things are different also. Before schizophrenia sex life was amazingly good, I miss that nowadays. It will never be the same.
My partner and I met before the schizophrenia hit. We had had an amazing sex life, then 4 months of hell with different meds and inpatient stays. Then 3yrs of almost back to normal. Then another episode and now nothing. No snuggles, NOTHING. Abilify & Wellbutrin and video or phone games. He only talks to me when he wants something (food or car parts). After 8yrs is this it? I wouldnāt abandon someone but Iām drowning. Is this itā¦ is this my forever?