I hesitate to say I am asexual as I can have sexual feelings but am not greatly interested in sex. Two things put me off ,the physical intimacy of the sex act and the fact that I am technically inept when it comes to performing the sex act.
I have not had sex for 27 years. Given a choice between sex and fantasising while masturbating I would choose the latter.
I wonder who else finds physical intimacy stress provoking.
Iām close to beating your record.
Iām not even trying. 
canāt do much when born a repellent.
Itās rather mechanical for me as I am not horny that often, but I donāt find it stressful.
I despise the heroin like reproductive opiate that is in my body.
Someone wants all of you to have quite a bit of children iād say.
Creepy ā ā ā ā to say the least yo.
And youād be very surprised if you are young and pass it by. Itās what ghandi called āojasā i think. Having little to no sex actually creates certain positive outcomes believe it or not.
Believe it or not, no sex will make you smarter, look into it why donāt you already?
then I must be a genius. 
I would say that I am different in that I would like to have a partner that I am attracted to (that part is important) and I would like to be intimate with that partner without the pressure of sex. Men, in my past, are much more interested in sex than in just intimacy. I am not asexual. I like sex. I am just not obsessed with it like the men in my past are.
Very interesting to hear a manās perspective that he doesnāt want the intimacy, just the sex. I donāt fault you for your feelings. You feel how you feel. I donāt masturbate because of meds, but when I did, it was to avoid the feeling of being āused for sexā, not to avoid the intimacy. That and I am hardly attracted to anyone, which makes it hard.
Iād like to see you do a poll on thisā¦
I would choose the latter too,
but only becauseā¦ 
Edit: wait a sec.
If there was a hot person on my bed to my left,
and a computer of pictures to my right,
then I would go for the hot person.
thatās a no-brainer
It doesnāt sound like you are āchoosingā the latter, it sounds like you are āacceptingā the latter. Am I right?
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I think itās actually more a phobia of the sex act than a complete antipathy towards physical contact. Cuddles with someone I love are fine itās what they can lead to that creates the problem.
I guess if I was cocksure about my sexual prowess it wouldnāt be a problem. I think anxiety and lack of self confidence/esteem has a lot to do with it.
It used to take me a long time to reach climax and a constant fear was it dying a death before the act was completed. Quite often it was a self fulfilling prophesy.
I am sorry to hear that. I misunderstood that you didnāt like intimacy but itās actually that you are intimidated by the sex act and have performance anxiety. Well, there is nothing wrong with masturbation. I would be doing it too if my meds didnāt completely crush my libido. That and I never see anyone I am attracted to. If I do, they may be taken already or not reciprocal. The last time I saw someone I was attracted to, it was a year ago at my gym. A beautiful mixed guy with blue eyes and dreadlocks and an amazing body. Truly stunning. but I digressā¦
i am afraid to have sex because i do not want to sin and anger God by having sex without being married. i will only have sex if and when i am married period. Sex without marriage is a sin.
letās not bring religion into the conversation, eh?
good threadās too young to die
Well said. There is nothing morally wrong with sex before marriage.
I have to agree. My āGodā has no problem with 2 consenting adults choosing to share a sexual experience.
MadMaks, I was thinking about it the other day, and I said to myself:
hey, a dude can really mess someone up by getting them pregnant.
to equalize that, we made marriages.
so morallyā¦ I donāt know.
but religiously, if you believe in a god that doesnāt allow it before marriage, then thatās your business, I guess. but Iāve been re-reading and re-reading my Book, and Iāve yet to see it as a severe sin before marriage.
my Bookās quite big though, I probably missed it. PM me if you can cite any specifics, MadMaks; but donāt post citations here, as that would put the thread off-topic.
This is very true. My first failed attempt with an older woman didnāt help. It was a case of very little foreplay and then she turned round,opened a drawer full of condoms and thrust one in my hand. I got flustered ,having never practised using a condom, and it died a death. Her reaction, to say nothing and turn her back on me .
I was always rather fearful of penis droop after that.
I donāt believe in a Supreme Being that passes out punishments for displeasing him. My āGodā is something else entirely. There is right and wrong. It is wrong to hurt people mentally or physically. No one is being hurt with consensual sex. It is not wrong.
Can we please keep religious bigotry off my thread.