Second hand wedding rings. What do you think?

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As my husband is out of town I’m watching more TV.

Noticed a lot of advertising for second hand jewelry.

Both for people to sell, and for purchasing.

But it wasn’t just jewelry,

They were specifically pushing their wedding/engagement rings.

I immediately was like “who would want a USED wedding ring?”

Then I thought about it a little more and realized that I will probably inherit the family wedding rings,

Wear them,

And give them to my son for his future wife/husband/person of choice.

So, a second hand wedding set isn’t such an odd concept.

Still,

Weird or not weird?

You know most these rings are coming from older, divorced women.

The rings I will likely have were not tied to any divorces,

But like so much resentment and hate in those marriages, divorce would have been better.

Thoughts?

Would you buy a second hand wedding set for your partner?

Would you accept a second hand wedding set from your partner?

I think yes.

To both.

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Surely you wouldn’t tell the partner it was second hand?

You just have it cleaned and it looks brand, spanking new.

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Now divorced I found out my ring set was not purchased that his mom found them in a tanning salon oh I was I rate.

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In my family’s cultural tradition accepting old and worn things from people we don’t know is a bit of taboo for reasons I can’t discuss but I absolutely love vintage stuff and buy them and so I would definitely accept a second hand wedding set from him

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Oh wow!

That’s pretty wild.

Found at a tanning salon.

My aunt went on and on about how large and beautifully cut her diamond engagement ring was for YEARS.

When she got divorced she couldn’t wait to sell it and make a fortune.

It was fake.

Not like nice fake either.

He had purchased it the night before he proposed at a JCPenny’s for $35.

It’s not a bad thing to have inexpensive rings,

But you can’t tell your partner they’re something they are not.

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I was thinking about this the other day.

What does buying jewellry for a woman actually mean or represent?

Is it a financial safety net that it provides?
Is it just a pretty ornament?

What does being bought jewellry make a woman feel?

If you see what I mean?

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I think it’s like staking a public claim on that woman.

It’s old fashioned, outdated and kind of sexist.

I had mixed feelings about engagement rings.

But my husband is from Texas,

And there was only so much tradition I could bend there.

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I would except them, the ring is just material. The love is what makes the marriage.

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But isn’t buying something expensive meant to make someone happy?

I mean the cooing and awe it supposedly creates. (source:movies)

I remember courting and flirting with an ex and she was eyeing up a cheap piece of jewelly while we were in Prague.

I bought her that jewellry on the spot. I think back that she accepted it and I wanted to be with her. Did I buy her it, subconciously to get in her pants? At the time, I just wanted to make her happy, in all honesty.

Is it oudated to buy a woman jewellry any longer?

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I don’t know.

Maybe I’m biased because I just plain don’t like jewelry.

I think it’s tacky.

That’s just my opinion and don’t hold it against people that like jewelry,

It’s just not for me.

A lot of women I know want expensive jewelry because they feel that further solidifies their partner’s love and commitment to them.

I think that’s pretty insane.

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Yes, i think you are spot on there.

Like buying flowers, what does that represent? The same?

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As long as it wasn’t taken off a dead body I would wear it lol

I tried to reset the engagement ring I got my ex fiancé but no one wanted it and pawn shop offer $30. I just kept it

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I like flowers,

So not sure.

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Ha!

This made me laugh.

I have a ring ( I don’t wear ) that was taken off my Grandmother’s body after she passed.

The reason I don’t wear it is because it’s not my size and it’s a cocktail ring so it can’t be manipulated like that to resize.

I’ve thought about trying to make it into another piece of jewelry, like a necklace,

But I still wouldn’t ever wear it because I don’t like jewelry,

So it sits in my bedside table.

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me and my partner have been looking at second hand wedding rings, i love buying second hand in general so it doesn’t bother me. i like art deco and edwardian rings so i suppose that crosses from second hand to ~vintage~ haha.

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I dig jewelry. Like, a lot.

I enjoy finding unique pieces and wearing them, or sometimes just looking at them in my jewelry box.

…Kinda like Gollum :sweat_smile:.

Anyways, that being said, I have bought second-hand fine jewelry before.

If I was ever to be presented with engagement/wedding rings, I wouldn’t necessarily mind if they were second-hand within the family.

If they were bought from a pawn shop or something, I dunno how I’d feel about that, as I’ve always heard it’s bad juju wearing someone else’s wedding stuff.

…I’m probably just putting the cart before the horse with that reply, but whatevs :sweat_smile:.

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Legend has it that our family rings are cursed.

My grandmother made my mother tell her she wouldn’t wear them.

My mom had them about ten years before she decided to put them on.

I don’t know if I believe it.

I think a lot of women in our family just had bad lives/marriages due to their own jackass decisions.

But I get what you’re saying about the pawn shop engagement ring.

I would have to think about that one.

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My wedding ring was used, we couldnt afford a new one. But i eventually lost it and we replaced it with a new one.

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My wedding ring was my wife’s grandfather’s ring. There is some history behind it.

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What if it’s only mostly dead?

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