I don’t think so. I think it has to do with talking about your feelings of resentments with a therapist or someone you trust. I hold onto things forever and when I remember the hurt it’s like it happened yesterday while my hubby does not. I think it’s just a difference in personality. You can either bottle it up, or let them go.
Also have you ever heard about emotion being ‘energy in motion’? A counselor told me that when someone on the road cuts you off, it stays with you, after he said that he said the emotion thing.
It was 15 years ago so I may be telling it not the best.
Theres never simple answers to good questions most of the time and when it involves things like resentment or similar things and the effect these emotions have on us In many levels is a doozy often.
I know that resentment doesn’t necessarily mean hatred as in the same level of emotion etc.
But I always say that hatred always betrays the hater and I think the same can be said about resentment.
Reason Why it betrays is from my experience and personal opinion is.
1-We have a sense of being right and or self righteousness and deserve to feel this way.
In allot of ways we do have the need or even right to feel like … well we’re right … we / I was wronged.
No doubting this can be legit . Altho it’s healthier to not hold in the sense of right whether we’re right or wrong due to the fact it will toxifi our self in many ways from mental health, how we view the world , our physical health and other ways that I’m sure you already get.
The better choice for our/ your health is to either work it out by talking to whom you resent and find a level of peace thru communication.
Another is simply / unsimply let it go if for no other reason than your happiness and over all health.
Another thing I always say is give the grace to others that you hope to get.
Let’s face it none of us are perfect. This doesn’t mean we have to be ok with being mistreated of course nor should we keep being vulnerable in the ways someone brought on this need to feel like resentment.
In reality over all we only have so many options to be ok in a realistic way.
I know this isn’t the perfect answer but I hope it helps as it has helped me countless times.
Becoming indifferent and or forgetting someone in a sense is a better extreme than brooding etc for your overall health.
Wishing you the best!
Thanks for the welcome and that makes me happy you’re doing well.
Hopefully that information isn’t needed and maybe someday it may make unfortunate feelings ok again!
Either way wishing you ball awesome days!