Relationship Advice Please

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I’m 61 years old and gay. For about two weeks I’ve been having sex with a 51 year old bisexual guy who has PTSD. He goes to the same psychiatrist I do and lives in my apartment building. I told him I’m SzA.

My psychiatrist just prescribed some Viagra for me today, after my primary care physician would only refer me to an urologist, with an appointment May 26th. With the Viagra I was able to completely satisfy him this evening.

I really like him and want to be his boyfriend, but am not sure if I should tell him. This evening he hit me with a bombshell that his ex-wife wants to get back together with him, and he doesn’t know what to do.

Should I put pressure on him telling him I want to be his boyfriend? I don’t know anything about PTSD. I don’t know what I should do if he gets back together with his ex-wife. I really like him and want to be with him.

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Tell him you want to be with him. You may miss your opportunity.

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Thanks Sheryl. I’ve been thinking about it, and just about decided that’s what I should do. I had to explain to him yesterday what LGBT meant. He’s been calling himself bisexual and apparently enjoys being with a man. He expressed some religious beliefs and I told him about a religious organization that welcomes LGBT people. We have that in common too.

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Let him know you’re interested. You only live once

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Thanks Pianogal.

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I lost my lover back in the 1990’s to AIDS, and didn’t think it would ever happen for me again.

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I tried to fix my bi friend up with another gay client of the psychiatrist I see. They are about the same age. My bi friend said he wasn’t his type, but apparently I am. I’m a little concerned about the difference in our age though.

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The reason he told you that is probably because he wanted to find out if you were serious enough about him to say something.

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Thanks ninjastar. I think he’s going to come back again tomorrow. If not I’ll go see him in his apartment.

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tell him you want to be his bf yea… you’ll regret it later if you didn’t try it i think…

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Thanks lekkerhondje.

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He’s been really patient with me about getting the Viagra. He’s strictly a bottom sexually. I offered to be bottom but he didn’t want to do that. We have had fun with oral sex, kissing, and mutual masterbation.

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I would tell him how you feel about the situation.
You really do only live once.

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Thanks Wave. 151515

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Yea express your feelings so he knows, try your luck. If my negative symptoms were better I would have tried my luck to get another gf. Last time I had a gf was in 2015, we dated from 2011 to 2015.

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10 years of age difference is not a lot, don’t worry. My mother’s uncle is 25y older than his wife lol

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Thanks Aziz. The other gay man I tried to fix him up with is skinny. I guess he just likes bears.

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I wouldn’t be surprised if you also have PTSD. It is common for people on the schizophrenia spectrum.

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Thanks Jayster 151515.

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I think you should tell him how you feel. Good luck to you

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