We have been together 10 months we’ve done it once and I think it’s mostly me and perhaps im asexual or just finding it difficult. Or maybe it’s because I can’t trust he is genuine.
I feel horrible about it. He said sex is just one aspect of a relationship , it’s not the most important part…but I still can’t get my head round the idea that what if he’s just looking for sex… 
Or something else I can’t think wbat…
Because hes taking this long to meet my family or tell his family.
Why don’t you just say, “The hell with it”, and do it again? Man, free sex! What more could you ask for?
I mean what would be the big deal in doing it three times in ten months? Or four times in ten months?
Dunno maybe im asexual it don’t interest me
Can you please clarify what asexual is? I always thought it implied that someone wasn’t interested in sex, but I know someone who claims to be asexual yet had a very healthy sex life when she had a boyfriend and tried to jump right in the sack with a guy she’d talked to online for a month but had never met before.
I struggle with feeling intimate. And most the time I struggle with feeling interested. I can’t bring myself to do it.
take it easy @anon80629714 , he sounds like he is being very patient with you, he must be waiting until you are ready,
I was with my last gf for about 6 mths but she stopped showing me affection and i had to end it, we never had sex, it would have been nice if we could have gotten that intimate but it just didn’t happen.
Why don’t you Invite him to your parents for dinner? you could have a nice meal together 
When I was on antidepressants and buspirone and a whole bunch of other meds, I lost interest. I could have gone weeks, maybe months, without realizing that I hadn’t had sex. Thank goodness I am off of those! I feel like myself again- playful! I am definitely not asexual. I seriously question that person I know…
you got to stop stressing and be a good gf for him, if you love him then why not, look to the future and ask yourself do you have a future together, he sounds like an ok guy. maybe he could make a good husband for you.
btw have you met any of his family?
Yeah @anon80629714. Relax and enjoy it and for gawdamns’ sake talk about it with him!
A good relationship needs good communication. He’s sticking around so he likes you! I know it is hard at first but start having decent conversations. You have fun together and sometimes you need to put down the ground rules. Have a chat. Start with I like you. If you like me and go from there!
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