ive been rejected by my peers again and again
sometimes they do that in a cruel way sometimes they just try to distance from me silently
i cant connect with people in meaningful ways
i dont really feel lonely anymore… ive just came to that conclusion
i can do things by my own i guess (it would be even better if i could read and learn…)
but the feeling of being rejected is eating me like some super potent acid
i dont know how to deal with this anymore please help
ps i hope this is the right place to post this topic
Hello @kuckuckuc !
I have advice for you mate!
Keep approaching strangers and telling them you want to be their friend!
You may be rejected sometimes but some people may accept your request!!
you might be right @everhopeful
but tonight i really feel this and i just dont know how to deal with it anymore
im not suicidal or anything im not even in crisis
i just have this feeling of guilt and shame that wont go away
im basically shunned by people around me all the time
I get this a lot. Feeling as though when I talk to people they don’t want to know. A lady who said her doors were open for me. , I called her twice but she said busy twice. She said she’d call back. She didn’t. It upset me but I know my friends now
So find different friends!
If people shun you leave them alone and find other friends!
It will also help you overcome the frustration of being shunned by people you
know and you’ll become less lonely!
I believe you will be better off if you listen to my advice but do as you please. @kuckuckuc
No reason to feel guilt or shame. You’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. There’s a stigma associated with schizophrenia though and couple that with the fact that some people aren’t very nice anyway it’s probably going to happen sometimes.
Think of future possibilities though. You seem to have a desire to be social that’s actually a big deal with this disease. So you’re half way there.
ive been changing social circles recently and met a lot of new people
they shunned me too
more new people is not the solution believe me @Erez_Shmerling
@kuckuckuc I do believe that if you are sufficiently persistent
you will find people who will willingly be friends with you.
However do as you please.
By the way you inspired me to look for friends!!!
I will approach strangers at the health club and ask to be their friend!!!
sorry about that. Don’t take it personal really because it is an illness. Makes us undesirable sometimes, esp for friendships. I lost my job twice… I still feel hurt for it but you know… I wanna move on. Maybe try making friends with other MI People like from group therapy etc. Are you functional and afford to go out sometimes? This also has an effect on friendships.
im afraid im not functional and when i get out its almost always a disaster because i act just too weird
it must be alogia and poor rapport and god knows what else
i culdnt tell a joke if you put a gun to my head
idea about other im people is sound but i dont know how to meet them we dont have group therapy here
@kuckuckuc I really don’t think you should pressure people to be your friends.
I think that it’s better to approach everyone and then, you will find people who will voluntarily be your friends.
You should reject the approach of bullying people to be your friends, this process should be voluntary.
yes i understand it wont be a pressure
i would realy hate if they had a feeling that they MUST hang out with me
thats why i say i dont know how to do that yet
but im gonna speak up i dont want to “fall by whisper”
I am sorry, rejection hurts. Hope when u get over it u will find some confidence deep inside to try again. If not u will live an isolated life that is typical for schizophrenics. U will never make a shot if u never shoot the ball they say.
sorry about that. Don’t take it personal really because it is an illness. Makes us undesirable sometimes, esp for friendships. I lost my job twice… I still feel hurt for it but you know… I wanna move on. Maybe try making friends with other MI People like from group therapy etc. Are you functional and afford to go out sometimes? This also has an effect on friendships.