Have you ever been shunned?

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I think it’s a common thing for people with schizophrenia.

It’s understandable to feel rejected, but it’s unlikely that everyone rejects you. Instead, it’s more likely that you are experiencing a specific set of rejections, and there could be several reasons why you’re feeling this way, including personal qualities, communication styles, and how you handle rejection.

Here’s a more detailed look at potential causes:

  1. Internal Factors:

Feeling unworthy or unlovable can lead to self-fulfilling prophecies, where you anticipate rejection and may even subconsciously push people away.

Some individuals are more sensitive to perceived rejection and may interpret neutral interactions as negative, leading to a sense of constant rejection, according to a blog post from the University of Rochester Medical Center.

Fear of social interactions can make it difficult to connect with others and may lead to feelings of being rejected when you’re not getting the responses you expect.

Subtle cues like body language, tonality, or energy can affect how others perceive you, and a lack of confidence might inadvertently signal a lack of interest in the relationship, says a post on Quora.

Traumatic childhood experiences, especially abandonment issues, can make it difficult to form healthy attachments and increase sensitivity to perceived rejection, according to a blog post on MentalHealth.com.

  1. External Factors:
  • Different perspectives:

People may have different interpretations of your actions or intentions, and you might misinterpret their responses as rejection when they’re not actually rejecting you, says an article on Psych Central.

  • Relationship dynamics:

In some relationships, there may be a mismatch in needs or expectations, leading to feelings of rejection even if the other person isn’t intentionally trying to hurt you, according to a blog post on MentalHealth.com.

  • Communication styles:

Your communication style, especially if it’s overly assertive, passive-aggressive, or overly needy, can create distance and lead to misunderstandings, according to an article on MentalHealth.com.

So people with low self esteem and anxiety disorders are more likely to feel rejected. When you add that to things like anhedonia and alogia and flat affect it’s a recipe for being pushed away.

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Haha..im living a real life social mobbing nightmare…the abuse is soo deep that the damage mimics symptoms of sz…

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bascially we are ‘‘different’’

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These things tend to be viscous cycles. Sz makes your more negative so people treat you more negatively which makes you more negative. Unless you can get off the week things get dark. I haven’t been able to make myself a pleasant person to be around. I’m paranoid and that paranoia tends to make me act in ways that makes other people act in ways that ends up validating that paranoia. I really think the best you can do with schizophrenia is separate yourself from society and just be clever about the ways you interact with it. I just don’t have the social savvy or patience to get along with people i dont have much in common with.

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That really is what it comes down to. There’s just some kind of gap we can’t seem to bridge.

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its our label to be honest sza/sz some people judge it badly

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Also common for people who have left a religion. (cough)

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Yeah I have felt a subdued feeling of “rejection” in the sense that some of my friends I feel treat me differently aince I told them about my diagnosis. Like I get the sense that they treat me more as a patient rather than a human being. Although it could be in my head, but my intuition tells me different.

Im trying to challenge treating myself as a patient since I got the diagnosis too, by practising affirmations daily.

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It’s not just that. I hang out with this group of people who are very accepting and I’ve been having a lot of trouble functioning in the group. It’s not the word schizophrenia that bothers them. It’s the fact that I’m constantly on edge, constantly perceiving things as slights or insults. One time I brought up a very touchy divisive topic with a friend. The topic directly affects him as a person and there was no reason to bring it up but I had talked to my dad about the subject weeks prior and though what if what I said gets back to my friend somehow. “I better just nip it in the but now” and we ended up having this horrible uncomfortable conversation because I was paranoid.

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That’s probably the most challenging part of socializing with schizophrenia. Distinguishing your intuition from paranoia.

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I do feel whatever it is, it’s just a natural reaction to having them know that I have the illness.

I think of it as a filter to see which friends to keep and which ones to distance myself when I feel that they do treat me differently and that there is repeated evidence of that. Trusting instincts is a challenge, but its gotta be done

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My daughter shunned me since election day last year. She didn’t agree who I voted for. she won’t even talk to me. She didn’t even wish me happy Mother’s Day. I’m so mad at her I just I just wanna smack the crap out of her. (I wouldn’t really do that though)

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The people I’m around are kind of excessively accepting. A lot of them self describe as Woke and because of that I feel they would never reject someone because of a diagnosis. A lot of them also have serious problems with mental illness too. I really feel it’s mostly about how i act. In my case.

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Its good that you have people around you that love and accept you for you.

I have the same, my friends are “normies” but some have mental health issues too. But its great when they look past the illness and see you and like you for you.

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I was pretty much shunned by my parents when I failed university. I ended up leaving the country!

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most people don’t understand sz/sza even with people with it

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A lot of people with the illness tend to regard themselves as prophets or leaders by virtue of having the illness when more often than not they’re no more special or worth listening to than others.

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I believe my Dad shuns me but I cant tell for sure

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I guess i have seen something like that cycle in my life. I do isolate too but my therapist thinks i should really try to change that. Im also a pretty negative person (at least in my mind) and i feel like its basically believing people are out to get me and being abusive. Havnt fou d any good strategy for fixing this…

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