Possible first date

I started trying online dating and now have a possible date on Saturday. It’s been a while since I went on a date (since before I was diagnosed) and feels like a nice idea. The thing for me is I feel like I’m being deceptive – like I’m fooling the person to thinking I’m a certain way and then will surprise them with schizophrenia down the line. Another part of the reason it’s hard is because everything ended so badly with my last ex when I became more psychotic . . . any advice? wisdom? similar experiences?

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Good wishes to you on your date.

I met my x on a dating site and we were together happily over two years.
I told him before our first date about schizophrenia.

I met my new boyfriend about three weeks ago through pof and told him about schizophrenia on our fourth date I think.

I hated having to tell him all my diseases worried he might leave me but so far so good.:partying_face::metal:t5:

Not nice moments telling them though…
The worry…

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Thanks for the response! Yeah, it feels awful the whole thing about telling or having to hide something. Glad everything is going well for you!

The date went ok – it was short and I run out of things to talk about really. We might do something tomorrow, like a walk. I don’t know. I’m not really sure how I feel except it’s nice to try dating again.

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I can relate a lot this… my latest theory is that my eyes do like a ‘retinal scan’ for every last ‘micro expression’ and my listening suffers. Though I think I’ve changed and need to test the waters myself. Good luck to you!!!

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Please let us know if you do!

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Oh definitely!!

Both my siblings met their significant others on Match.

So I’ve gone back to that after like 15 years of being dormant.

Right now I’m doing add ons like ‘boosts’ for attention but it also gives you insight into who is active on the site.

I’m having a lot of fun with it

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Nice! I have one friend that met her husband on eharmony and another friend that met hers on either match or okcupid. I’m trying eharmony for now as it’s familiar and that I like that there’s a personality test . . .

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Hi Billy, I have been ghosting girls a lot since I lost my virginity, but I used to do other things before at school like minor image modification, snow white was a scary movie, I hated the princess, but I do feel for feminists and always end up singing in the choir somehow, I guess I’m cursed by my name having to represent England, trying to be a family man, am dating Chinese now.

Testing the waters is not a priority for me, swimming is easy, like floating really, I’m not trying to revive anything other than friends and family, you can’t save everyone you know x

Are you a teacher now and married I presume, hope that’s not to personal, just trying to remember what I heard x

I’m confused? Not a teacher but am single right now . . .

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