When I lighten up and talk freely with a friend, I interrupt, or I change the topic abruptly. I don’e hear everything they say and I forget where we were headed.
If I think a lot I can hold a better conversation.
I want to get help talking.
I know I shouldn’t “be so hard on myself.”
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I get lost in conversations really easily. My mind jumps around a lot and it’s hard to follow what a person is saying for any real length of time.
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Thank you, that helped me a lot because of what I just understood. Perhaps part of my problem is not mine but partly the person I am trying to talk to.
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Correction: No, it is me that has trouble talking.
I dont have this problem but my problem is that simetimes I say or laugh inappropriately and then feel bad about it after. I think it happens bcz I have apathy and low empathy.
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I think I’m really bad… which is why I don’t have any real life friends. That requires being good at talking. At least to most people.
This illness + autism = very very terrible talker.
I hope I can find a friend who understands that. I have an online friend who’s nice to me. I’m thankful for him, but I want a friend in real life, too. Nice people exist. Nice enough to accept there are things i’m not good at and can’t do. I just hope I find those people.
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@anon8989663 As a follow up: Where do you live (may I ask)? Is it urban, suburban, or rural. Do you belong to any groups that might have a potential friend?
The reason I ask these questions is because the specifics seem to be necessary when pair two people for a friendship.
I ever you meet someone anywhere at any time and you kind of like them, give them your phone number. If it results in disaster you can always stope taking calls from them.
What is a true friend worth?
My friends are: AR, HB, GC, PK, YT
I hope you can learn about friendship althought from the sounds of your condition, I think it might take time.
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I got same. Sz and autism. I have a hard time talking to people especially when they use sayings and i don’t understand what they mean and then get lost in the conversation.
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I’m like you too. I have trouble carrying on a conversation. I interrupt and change the topic.
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Where I truly live is rural. I’ve been staying at my grandmother’s and it is more suburban.
I started volunteering at a group in early November. I met someone there. I didn’t really talk to her but when we got home she sent me a friend request on FB and regularly likes my posts.
I don’t know when the group is meeting up again. It was supposed to be on the 28th last month, but our province went back to not allowing groups that size because cases went back up. But I will definitely see her again. I think if I am likely to make a real life friend soon, it’s this lady.
Thank you
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Schizophrenia + cognitive decline + mild Aspergers = poor talker.
I’ve never been any good at making small talk. Most of my life I’ve been a loner. It seems like I always say the wrong thing.
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I honor this reply.
That really pins it down accurately. To know this is one thing, to treat it another.
I care so deeply for this. My grandfather Ruffley who I loved was very much like this. He suffered in his lifetime. He suffered because he could not talk very much even with his immediate family. He lost his wife and then lived on another 10 or so years. He read all of Agatha Christie’s books. He adopted a hobby of photography. He had lots of boredom. He had few friends. When he got old he started losing his vision and he needed vision to watch TV. He had a mentally ill (like childhood schizophrenia) son Named Donald and my grandfather loved Donald with all his heart and soul. Profound love. And also that relationship required some sacrifice. Donald died before he did.
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Well I’m 61 now and for the last year I’ve been having trouble getting around due to osteoarthritis in my lower back, left hip and knee. Up until February 2018 my life revolved caring for my elderly mom. She died in February. That was the purpose of my life until then. I really hadn’t had a purpose since then.
I react to what you wrote. You wrote that you have physical pains and you lost your dear mother about 2 and a half years ago. You wrote that you have lost your purpose in life. As I read the last sentence you are saying to me that you now have a purpose.
I am too weak now to reply, but I heard you.
If you wil revisit this community and participate it is likely I will see your ongoing posts and engage with you.
I dont have problems with talking but my doc has diagnosed me with disorganized schizophrenia so my main symptoms should be disorganized thinking and behaviour maybe the meds work so it treats this symptom. Sometimes I notice that I can be quiet tho must be alogia it comes and goes but I still have my friends left and we talk regularly on the phone sometimes they also come visit
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