POLL: Do you think people should get over their trauma?

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Do you think people should get over their trauma?

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I love the original Charmed show. A couple of the main characters have trauma from the show. One of them isn’t over it because she was fired for what the other main characters say is basically fraudulent reasons.

Some fans discussed this on Facebook. Some said get over it. Someone replied and said, “stop telling people to get over their trauma.”

I’m discussing it here because a lot of us have trauma that probably caused our mental illnesses, like me.

My psychiatrist said I definitely function well and excused me from jury duty when I asked about my mhi and jury duty (I didn’t want to serve). In the excuse letter for jury duty she said “due to the severity of her mental health diagnosis.” I have sza and anxiety.

I could have served on jury duty. My psychiatrist wouldn’t have had a problem if I chose not to use the letter.

Anyway, I’m not trying to sway anyone’s opinion.

What do you think?

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People don’t like hearing about things that are chronic and can’t really be helped. So they blurt out “get over it”.

I think some people commit suicide because of trauma they can’t get over.

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Trauma can be healed, too.

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I think people should try getting over it by working on it.

Telling people to get over it sounds dumb!

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I never healed from my childhood Trauma but it can be managed.

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I would never tell someone to “get over” their trauma. But I would encourage them to try to accept and get past it.

I’ve had trauma too. But I do not make a big deal of it. At some point, you need to accept that things happened and try to move on. Things that can’t be changed and all.

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These are really thoughtful and insightful answers. Thanks @Bowens @bobbilly @everhopeful @Speedy @PinCushion.

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I think it’s not a yes or no kind of answer.

It’s more case by case.

Some traumas you can “get over” in some sense.

Some you just can’t.

Generally I try not to let past traumas consume me and move on.

But I’ll never be over the trauma of adoption.

It’s as fresh a wound as it ever was every single day.

I think it’ll always be like that and maybe it should.

Depends really.

On a lot of things.

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I voted no because of the words “get over it”. People should absolutely work through their trauma in order to feel better, but I don’t think there is any “getting over” trauma. Either you let it hold you back or you get through it.

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I think for me if I couldn’t manage my childhood trauma it would eventually destroy me though alcohol abuse and drug abuse like it does to some people. Thankfully I only drink beer but not everyday. My beer drinking is down to boredom not trauma related.

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Thanks @Charles_Foster and @bittercat.

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If by get over it you mean just ignore and forget about it, no. If by getting over it you mean working through your feelings and learning to forgive, then yes.

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Thanks @anon4126574.

I don’t know what they meant exactly. I imagine something like, “let it go.”

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I had trauma that was so severe I tried to kill myself a few times in September 2015. Shortly after that I got sent to the psych ward and they diagnosed me with schizophrenia and gave me meds and for some reason I forgot about the trauma and was fine for the whole month I was in the psych ward and 6 months I was involuntarily committed. Then when I got to go home I had the CPTSD return until last year it just kinda went away for some reason and I’m doing fine now.

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I’m glad you’re doing better @anon21675834. Your screen name reminds me of the movie, The Lost Boys. :heart:

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Some things you just never completely get over.

I was sexually abused between ages 2 and 5, plus some random incidents after that, the last at age 15. By 2 different perpetrators in my family.

You just don’t forget that.

It’s impossible.

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It never goes away, like a scar. But you can calm the emotions and turmoil when triggered by the memories so that you can find some sort of peace.

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Thank you @sweetpotatocasserole and @anon28552576.

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I have trauma I have gotten over and others they will stick we me til the end.

I voted yes as in some are possible some are not.

We are all different how we are able to manage life and handle trauma.

Just cause one person can get over their trauma doesn’t mean another can get over the same trauma.

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I had a friend tell me to just get over it when I was going through a bad ptsd episode. It was so hurtful and didn’t help. I think people should work on processing it, but you don’t just get over it

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