Why am not over my ■■■■■■■ trauma ? Ive been in therapy for 10 years yet every episode i have is triggered by some trauma trigger and i have so many. Im sick of overwhelming people, im sick of being too much because i cant figure out how to self sooth in crisis. Im fall apart and i feel like im drowning but i am just too much for anyone to help its so hopeless
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From what i heard,
Trauma is hard to deal with and it can be something you have to work on your whole life.
So dont give up.
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Im reqllt teying not to
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“Stupid” “ugly”
Thats bad things to be told.
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Dont think you can escape the affects of trauma. I csnt, its been over ten years since certain things happened in my life, and im feeling the worst of it at the present
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Voices are telling me that
I can definitrly feel you there. My trauma come sin waves and each crash hits harder and harder
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I’m still trying to deal with being drugged, taken from a party, and turned out for 3 months when I was 19. It really screwed me up.
Part of my healing is, in my case but I’m sure not yours, admitting that I wasn’t careful enough and I was in a bad area with bad people and did it anyway. The large part of my recovery is that it wasn’t my fault and learning to feel safe in the world again.
My mental health team all say it’s severely affecting my psychosis. I’m trying so hard to believe them.
Anyway, it’s ok that you’re not yet recovered. Trauma takes a lot of work to heal from.
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Im sorry that happened to you thats awful. Mine is mainly emotional but i qas tirggered tonight by some sexual assault that happened to me last year. That led to my emotional triggers from nemotional abuse from my ex from last year, and this ptsd only started back in may on the annoversary lf her getting physical with me. I had my severe ptsd synptoms under control for many years 
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Have you tried EMDR therapy? That’s a therapy especially for trauma.
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Yes its the only thing that got my truama under control before. Im looking for a therapist for it
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I’m so sorry that happened to you. You can’t expect to be healed from an attack one year after it happens. It takes time to heal. Please don’t be hard on yourself
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A friend recently told me to just get over it so ive been blaming myself
You’re friend has obviously never suffered. It must be nice to live such a perfect life that she has no understanding of what’s happened to you, and what it’s like to suffer
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Yeah its hard to want to be her friend after that. I owe her money, and i think im going to say hey ill pay yoy back in december but we cant be friends anymore because of this. It was a huge boundary for me
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I totally support you in that decision @Moon
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you never get over it. You can learn to integrate it into your life, but you never get to go back to the person you were before it happened.
After I recovered from my brain tumor as a child, I had a friend tell me I needed to stop talking about it so much, because I am fine now and I should be happy about that. After my dad died, my little sister’s friends got together and wrote her a letter about how she was being selfish because she never talked about anything except her dead dad.
People who haven’t experienced major traumas protect their minds by believing they made good decisions, and that those good decisions are why they haven’t suffered. When you keep talking about it, it challenges that defense mechanism. Some people can’t handle that.
People who have experienced major traumas can sometimes act like that also, but for a different reason that is easier to stomach. It is because they have so many struggles they can’t possibly fit another into their brain.
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Also…aren’t you not even 30 yet? Therapy you had as a kid doesn’t always count because it wasn’t your choice to go.
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I never had therapy as a kid. I attempted suicide when i was 13 and told my parents a week later, they did nothing. I went into therapy wgen i turned 18. But yeah im almost 30 (october 8)
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