Please help with suggestions for paranoid/ anxious people

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Hi y’all!
I’m going to a big concert tomorrow with hubby. I love music, but I’m more of an open mic night at the local bar kind of gal (though I don’t drink, lol), at least when I used to leave the house. I’m already feeling very stressed and anxious. I’m worried about guns. So, so worried. And the drive will be very bad. I don’t go out often, so even local drives get to me. We have to cross water, too, and I don’t like water, don’t like bridges. There are so many problems with water. Plus, lots of people. Probably alcohol. What if someone throws up near us? And the walk. My knees are ruined. I can walk across the street, but after that, I start hobbling. So many issues. I don’t want to be the one to mess up what could be a nice night for hubby, though. I messaged my pdoc, but thought maybe y’all will have some suggestions.

FYI- I already take 10mg diazepam 3x/day, Trazadone, quetiapine, and other non-sza meds. Including blood thinners, which means I’ll be more likely to bleed out without a quick response in the event of guns. :-/

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please don’t let the shootings scare you out of a good time at the concert…I put that away the fear. best just live your life unafraid.

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I go out a lot and I have never seen a gun. Worrying about the “what if’s” ruins what is.

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I’ve heard gunfights before. I grew up in a bad area. The vast majority of my family carries guns and owns more than a handgun. I’m from Texas. Even my 22 yr old nephew got a gun when he turned 18. I grew up spending so much time in gun stores- my dad managed one for a while, even. It’s really hard not to think about them. Shootings is a newer fear, though. Since that Vegas concert with (I think) Jason Aldean.

Any suggestions for not worrying about the “what ifs”? I can’t get past them; it’s been an issue for me as long as I can recall.

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Whut the whut? Guns?!? Why in the fresh hell would you go to an event where gunplay is a possibility? Holy crap.

I don’t know what to say - there’s no way I would be able to attend this sort of function without at least a mini-relapse. I know what my red line is and what you’re describing is well beyond that. My wife tried to get me to go to an event like this once and wound up taking her cousin.

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IDK. The idea is to have fun, why not concentrate on all the things that can go right instead of all the negatives? The bottom line is: it’s a concert, you have to sit/stand there and listen to the band play. Everything else is extraneous.

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I couldn’t do it so more power to ya. You should look up distress tolerance skills and use them when there. You sure you want to go?

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In the US going to the grocery store can involve guns.

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May I suggest delivery in that case?

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