Don't know if I should go out. Need advice/help!

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There’s a Grateful Dead cover band at The Moose’s lodge I used to go to and play music and get really buzzed up there. I quit drinking 5 months ago and have not been around alcohol since. I want to go and take pictures. But I’m terrified of being around alcohol. I was going to go with my schizophrenic friend (who I actually met on this forum and we are practically neighbors, weird…) But I’m probably going to back out. I don’t like driving at night, I’m not big on loud noises, and I really am scared at what will happen being around alcohol.

I don’t know if I’m just finding reasons to not go cause of anxiety or am making the smart choice by not going. Help!

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Maybe staying in is the right thing if being around alcohol triggers you. Especially if you know people there who are drinking.

It’s a big event. I probably wouldn’t go, but that’s because I find it stressful. Especially concerts that are loud and crowded.

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Yeah. My friend is trying to tell me that being home all the time isn’t good. But I was a pretty serious alcoholic.

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I suppose it’s good to get out, but maybe find something that suits you a little better without the alcohol and maybe less stresfull. Or at least make sure your friend is ok with you not drinking and will encourage you not to drink if you go.

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I just have a feeling I’ll see someone with a beer and get paranoid

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Yeah. She doesn’t really drink. And said she’d support me. And I’m a musician so I’d probably love the music. But…I just know I’m gonna get paranoid seeing old friends drinking.

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If you have time to recuperate, you should try to enjoy yourself once in a while. If you end up drinking, try wine or liquor watered down with sparkling water or soda.

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Trust your gut. It sounds like you’re not ready

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I drank every day for 6 years. I’m afraid one drink would lead to 10. I’m really bad at stopping drinking when I start

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I’m not going. It would be healthy for me to get out. I’m leaving home for 4 days after Thanksgiving. I’ll get out then.

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Good decision. I don’t think this was the right outing for you. The last thing you need is to be paranoid and triggered.

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I agree with @anon39736208. You made a wise decision. You just don’t sound ready for that type of event yet.

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Thanks. I would love to be able to be a band photographer. A lot of these local bands dont have any pictures. I would love to take pictures for them. It just so happens that mostly all bands play at bars. Im not ready for a bar yet. The last time i went in one i got paranoid. I just hate being home all the time. I dont go anywhere because of my anxiety.

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You made the right decision. Alcohol and meds are not a good mix.

:+1:

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Knowing that it’s a Grateful Dead cover band, there will most likely be a lot of drugs floating around.
You are better off staying home.

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I think avoiding alcohol is more important than a night out listening to music . You have the rest of your life to go places; pick and choose where you want to go.

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Well, I successfully went into the liquor store to use the ATM and bought a soda along with a bag of chips. My problem is it’s the closest ATM to me. I’m an alcoholic too.

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Ugh. That would be so tempting!

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