Overthinking? If not, what can be done? Friends, please help!

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I only have 3 friends (not counting you all :slightly_smiling_face: ) and I’m worried that one does not like me any longer/is cross with me.

I was paying more attention to the other 2 friends instead of her the last time we all got together and I think that hurt her that I ignored her.

She also criticized me I think??! I am very hurt.

She doesn’t text me these last few days and only replies in one word responses to my texts I send her.

I can’t lose her as a friend, she calms a lot of my anxiety.

She changed my life and became my 1st friend in a decade or more.

I can never repay her for all that she’s done for me.

Am I overthinking/overanalyzing and it’s all ok? If not, what can I do? Please please please help my friends.

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What were your intentions? Usually people can percieve that (wrong or right) at that moment.

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I know you agonized over this problem recently. I think you should try to relax. Maybe it’s a chemical problem. Maybe you need something that helps you relax when you’re in social settings

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Easiest thing to do is talk with her.

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@dreamer54 Well I am trying to get to know my other friend a bit better, not the original friend.

I have been texting the other friend a bit more individually and so I feel I ignored my original friend that night.

I feel awful. I am in the wrong I feel I feel so awful and panicky.

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@FreeLunch Thank you. I feel it is chemical. I’m so sorry

I have terrible terrible anxiety disorders.

I take gabapentin and I have prn xanax (which I never use).

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@anon63380492

I am agonizing!! I don’t think I would be able! I’d bawl my eyes out!!

This is the first time in over a decade I’ve had any friends. Oh no I’m so terrified

If I did talk to her? Would I sound crazy? Am I making this up in my head? Could I text? What could I say?

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I think you should say to her that she seems upset with you and you’d like to make amends and know what you did wrong. Tell her you love her and value your friendship and don’t want to lose it.

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Yeah I agree with @LilyoftheValley

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Really @LilyoftheValley ?? Oh no oh no oh no. My heart is in my throat from panic

Could I say “are you ok? You seem quiet these last few days” Or “is everything ok? You seem quiet these last few days. Miss hearing from you!!” Would that work?

And @anon63380492

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Yeah, you could ask her if she is ok and go from there. One word responses usually mean someone is upset with you. Thats why I recommend letting her know you’d like to make amends, that you love her, and that you value your friendship

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Ok THANK YOU @LilyoftheValley

You have given me invaluable advice.

I’m so sorry. I’ve not had friends in over a decade. I am a bad friend and rusty I guess. I’ll keep trying.

Thank you all so much. You help me so much friends!!! I’m texting her now.

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Yeah that should be ok @anon90992146

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Good luck! Let us know how it goes

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If it’s easier , you could text, than talk in person… I think

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You don’t have to apologize. I just don’t know what to do to help you organize your thought or calm down. The reality is that the best way to approach dealing with a relationship is to keep a calm demeanor and always expect the best from people. They let you down- that’s their problem. It’s not a reflection on you

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@FreeLunch , she knows she ignored her friend a bit which probably really hurt her friend’s feelings. So it’s not just all on her friend. It’s good for her to reach out and if necessary, make amends.

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Okay, maybe I’m wrong

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I meant she didn’t have to apologize to me or us for being anxious

Not that she shouldn’t explain to her friend

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@FreeLunch , I’ve had a so called friend physically turn their back on me to only talk to another friend present.

It really hurt me. And because I received no apology or anything, I ended the friendship.

She may have done nothing wrong but if she values the friendship it’s best she reaches out and if necessary, makes amends

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