I’ve talked to guys who said, “I wish my dad had been more affectionate with me.” I’ve talked to other guys who had a different reading on their fathers. I always wanted some male bonding with my father, and though he did give me attention I felt like he was in a different world. But a father who knows how to handle his sons is a great person. I think most boys want at least some male bonding from their dads. It can have a powerful interest on their sons’ lives. Sons need a father who is a great role model and a judicious disciplanarian. That’s asking a lot from one person, but it is what most sons need.
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My dad was successful and provided his family with money but he definitely had his issues. He takes lexapro and sometimes a Xanax now. I think his anxiety is a little bit better now especially in traveling but always he’s had odd/embarrassing habits. My dad I felt he didn’t talk to me enough. My parents hardly ever disciplined me. They didn’t really do much to steer me on the right path in high school and then they just ship me off to college It wasn’t easy to succeed in my scenario.
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It’s hard to know what the magic formula is. It helps to have money, and you have to work hard to have money, so a lot of parents are too tired from working to give their kids enough time. Sports and athletics are good for bonding, and I’ve seen a couple of coaches scream at their players really loud. A few guys get disillusioned from sports, but most regard sports as a positive influence in their lives. Also, if you’re more oriented towards academics a professor is good for bonding.
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Hell, I just wanted to have a dad. Or at least a mom that wasn’t obviously psycho.
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Didn’t have one - for the better.
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My dad was not a good role model.
And we didn’t get bonded.
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My dad has been dead since I was 3
All I want was for him to be around
He could have taught me to be a mechanic like him
My step father who I regard as my father has been there since I was 5 years old.
He has invested 30 years of his time and money to raise me
My own father couldn’t even manage 3 years, and left my mother bankrupted by his behaviour
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I have a good relationship with my father.
I do have to listen to his religious crap. So there’s that.
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I grew up with a single mother, my father beat her. I know I’m lacking some qualities but I’d rather have a calm house.
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Me and my dad really only bonded for sports. Now we bond over more so it’s ok.
But i definitely wanted more of a fatherly role model in my life especially in middle school and high school. I know this sounds wrong maybe but Tupac was like my father when I was in high school. I just couldn’t relate with white men at all. I just felt all 50 year old white men acted hostile with me while other races were more easily relatable for me. And I didn’t wanna be white for years. And I even Pretended I didn’t have a father online. That separated me and my dad subconsciously. But now we have a good relationship so is all good I’d say
This was just my experience as a youth. Not saying my perception was all true but that’s what happened
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Sometimes I think about how much better my dad was than me at so many things. And he did try to be a good father, but he was so blinded by this one fault that he ultimately failed. When I was growing up I hated him, but as I got older I decided no one is perfect.
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